“In looking back, what in the past have you been the most misguided and/or angered or frustrated about? I’ll have to think about misguided, but I’ve in the past been most frustrated with loved ones who give unsolicited advice on how to fix something I’m not having a problem with. Or who have critical comments about everything.” I posted that on Facebook and most of the responses had to do with lying. One FBF wrote, “It is frustrating to learn that people you thought were nice were really big liars, lying about everything because they are unhappy with their life, so they pretend to be to be one way with one person, another way with another person, and so on. It is really sad for them, but the frustrating part is being fooled, and also finding out that when you are yourself and always speak the truth, the chronic liar acts friendly and nice, but secretly harbors resentment that festers and finally becomes ugly. I try to avoid liars but they are not always so easy to spot…”    Continue reading →

Imagine the person you would ideally love to become. If you don’t know what this is, start by imagining this ideal self. And I mean ideal self, not what you think is possible given your (perceived) limitations, but what you ideally would like to be, without compromise. Ideally feel the feelings of being that person and as you’re walking along the street, project the energy of that person out in front of you, to the sides and behind you – imagine this in your mind and begin to feel the sensations of your ideal self. Now imagine yourself in-front of you, watching yourself as you approach you and watch what great things you attract into your life. Wayne Coleman

A roadblock has been thrown up and you’ve had a disappointment. Do you rail against the perpetrator, point fingers and tell everyone you know all about it? Or do you quietly acknowledge that the Universe has your best interest in mind and, the sooner you stop whining about it, the sooner you can get on to your happier and better tomorrow? Wanting to give the other party heck is just keeping you in a place of resistance. Acknowledge that you may not now understand what is happening. Trust and expect that you will always end up in a better place. Then find something to be happy about.

Remember that in any confrontation everyone involved is only you mirroring yourself back to you. Have compassion and reflect on the mirror you see before you.

A Dash is a Dash is a Dash – Or Is It?  Lions and tigers and bears, oh my! More like hyphens and dashes and…more dashes. Oh Lord! The dash, the en dash, and the em dash. The Three Musketeers of the writing world. The Holy Trinity of the literary apocalypse. The…okay, you get it. These simple lines on paper (or a computer screen) are enough to make the staunchest writer quiver if they don’t know when to use which. No, don’t run away. It’s okay. No need to panic. This is easy. Really.

Em Dash (—): Denotes a pause in thought, a parenthetical statement, or — more casually — an afterthought. In a web page, a web developer can include — to represent the character. When typing, you can input a character by holding ALT and typing 0151 on the numpad.
En Dash (–): Denotes a range, especially of numbers, such as $100–150. – in a web page or ALT-0150 on a keyboard.
Hyphen (-): Used for the hyphenation of words (co-ordination; able-minded; pre- and post- touring.) Just use the keyboard key for this one.

Thank you to www.kajhaffenden.com for the above definition and shortcuts.

Trying to connect with a galpal but I know me. Too often I’ve made plans and had to cancel at last minute, so I’m now commitment phobic to the max. i can plan on a 730am walk but if I go overtime on calls the night before, I may not get to bed until 6am and hafta sleep til 9am. I’d rather friends be ticked I don’t make plans rather than be ticked that I cancel em. I see I’ve been doing this for 20 years now

Was at the gym when it opened at 7:00am working arms, shoulders, back and core. Afterward did a lap on the trails at Turkey Creek, then picked up the man and walked it again. My legs are happy!

A friend asked for the quickest way OUT of the drama and chaos she’s having. The secret is to stop talking about it. Now. Don’t repeat the story to anyone else, no matter how juicy the updates. Stop participating in giving any energy to the topic and the persons involved will immediately, like magic, stop having power over you. We’re much more powerful than we think, all it takes is a little change of focus and the perception shift can be a life changing revelation.

At Turkey Creek Sanctuary today, I stayed off the boardwalk and walked the Sand Pine Trail and then the Turkey Oak Trail, it’s one mile or 2220 steps that way. Then you can turn around and do it backwards for another mile, and add the boardwalk for another mile. Even at 10am with the sun rising high, it was under shade for most of the walk. The Turkey Oak Trail is more primitive, so watch your steps carefully, lots of roots and palmetto logs, high enough to stumble and trip on if you’re not paying attention. I really dig walking with one of my trekking poles. It does get caught in the spaces between the boards in the boardwalk though, plus the boards can be slippery when wet first thing in the morning. That’s why I prefer the trails. There were a half dozen people there this morning but everyone quiet so that was cool. I carried 17 lbs of weight in my backpack to start getting used to it.

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A friend didn’t buy her husband’s “oh, you misunderstood” story and told him so. He shouted that she needed to stop bringing up old stuff.  Sound familiar? Old stuff? They’d never resolved ANY of it, he’d just pout until she finally dropped it. She was tired of dropping it. This was her life, too, and she didn’t want to waste another minute trying to make happen what wasn’t meant to happen. She told him he could reframe it all he wanted but he purposely lied and got caught and he was the one who kept bringing it up. If he’d stop trying to prove he wasn’t lying, they would be off the topic already.  When he was calm again, she told him he should work on his issues, like cutting people off when they call him on his stuff, resolving nothing and moving from person to person with the same behavior, ignoring the carnage. He said he didn’t like that and she reminded him it’s not about him liking anything, it’s about him making an effort to resolve his issues so he can be the man he is capable of being.   Continue reading →