Give it time

A friend I did a reading for earlier this year told me, “You were right, you said the holiday break I would find out who he was and he showed himself.  Now I question if any was real. Never again. Thank you so I was prepared.”  I replied to her, ” It IS real for as long as it lasts.  The beginning is always good behavior.  Give it a year and most show who they are.  They are growing, too.  Take away expectation of anyone doing what they say they’ll do, then you won’t be disappointed when they move from shiny dime to shiny dime. Few can sustain real depth, they know if they stay in one place too long they are unmasked and they can’t handle that… yet. Never say never. Go with the flow and get other things going on.”  We all learn at our own speed. Never punish someone for not having or sustaining depth.  Never punish them for not doing what they say they’ll do.    Never punish them for not continuing to love you.  Remove all expectation, all of it.  If it’s meant to flow, it will flow.