I read in The women in the Tiger Woods Scandal: As the Tiger Woods story continues to evolve and escalate (see: his apology), a handful of women who aren’t named Mrs. Woods have come into the fray claiming they’ve had affairs with the golf great. It can be quite confusing — so many mistresses, so little time — so PopEater took the time to break down each alleged Tiger poacher and the stories swirling around them. Then the story continued on to show pics and give some dish on each. My thoughts on this matter of his alleged infidelity was – with all due respect – who cares?
Lots of my buddies won’t like this part: I wrote in Infidelity; Cheaters; Sex Decoys: Love Stings that I know that just because my partner can be tempted doesn’t mean they don’t love me and that I can’t have a happy life with them. It’s not what they are doing that causes the problem, it is my reaction to what I think about what they are doing that causes the arguments. It helps to remember that intentions change, and we can live happier lives when we allow wiggle room for that. Don’t make more of it than it needs to be. Don’t jeopardize your own happy life by making it an issue and having an attitude about it. Get over it and get okay with it or get out of it.
Sure, we can go all in to society demanding commitment and setting moral boundaries; into learning to attract partners that can be conscious and choose to exercise personal discipline. But none of that overrides the fact of nature that Humans Are Simpy Not Made Monogamous: A Biological View. The government can outlaw gravity, but that will not change the fact that the natural force of gravity is gonna do its work nonetheless.
Tiger Woods, Brad Pitt, Joe the Plumber, it doesn’t matter who it is. Do yourself a favor and stop connecting two events that don’t need to be connected. He can absolutely love you. He can absolutely want to raise a family with you and be with you for the rest of his life. That does not have to change if he has encounters with other women. Remember, it’s not his cheating that causes the problem, it is your change of attitude and behavior afterward.
Do you have good reason? It’s not about whether you have good reason to be mad and whether you’re justified, it’s about do you love this person and want to continue to be in a relationship with them? That’s all this is about. Everything else is just a thought in your head, and you are the one who can control those.
He can be smart in all other areas of his life yet feel at the mercy of his hormones when it comes to sex. He can be completely stupid in the face of evidence he may lose his entire family and lifestyle over it. Don’t take advantage of that. If he’s a good man and you love him, his relationship with anyone else does not have to affect his relationship with you. The only place it can do that is in your mind and you are the one in charge of what you allow yourself to continue thinking.
Of course he should be respectful and not allow anyone to call you, nor appear at your door. But don’t demand to know where he is every moment, and he doesn’t need a play by play of your daily events either. Don’t play games. Don’t make stupid, jealous comments, ever. Let him look and appreciate other women. So what? Don’t cause unnecessary drama. Be as fun as you were when you first met. The less you make any controversy an issue, the more likely you are to have a long and successful relationship. And isn’t that what it’s all about?
Of course, don’t stay with anyone you feel does not respect you.
But infidelity is a separate issue.
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