“Every day you spend on this earth is a day closer to finally living.” A friend turned me on to the quotes of Yasmin Mogahed. She’s Islamic but her messages are universal. She also says “Ignoring a Reality doesn’t make it less Real. It’s still going to happen. Being unprepared for something doesn’t stop it from happening.” A friend brought that to my attention and asked if I agreed with it, citing her quarrelsome, buttinski mother in law. “Me ignoring her isn’t going to make her any less of a bitch.” I don’t disagree with it, but my experience is that while ignoring a “reality” doesn’t make it less “real,” placing your attention elsewhere will take you out of vibrational resonance with it, thus it becomes less “real” in your experience.
If I actively set out to ignore my mother in law, I’m placing a fair amount of energy into the ignoring of her. That introduces resistance into the equation, and resistance keeps me stuck to it. If I’m actively avoiding her, that’s a pushing-against. That’s no fun and it’s unproductive. However, if I can easily and repeatedly place my attention elsewhere with intense interest, that is the magic charm that removes her from my experience. “How can you do that when it’s your mother in law?” Easy, if you’re serious about wanting to remove her from your experience. Social convention aside, it’s always your choice where to place your attention. Sure, it may cause an argument with your husband and other family who want you to do otherwise. Then you have to deal with them. Make sure you’re not biting off more than you can chew. My choice would be to instead ask for guidance to see the situation with new eyes, to see a way you can flow harmoniously with whatever is happening so it is no longer an irky experience for you.