Facebook friend Janelle writes, “Someone got mad at me for saying that “their love looks and feels like mental illness.” I only said it because it was true. I know when someone wants to love me to the point of madness … drown me, blame me and make themselves a martyr … I’m not new at this… I want you to love YOU first… and then maybe I will allow you some romantic frivolity. But not a moment sooner. It seems the more mature I get, the less patience I have for those types of relationships. I find them insulting to my soul.” Her words made me realize I may have never had a healthy relationship. I was always flattered my guys acted obsessed with me. Now I’m seeing what a normal relationship is. It’s unfamiliar but it’s real. And it rocks.