Domino writes: “Once again I thought I found the man of my dreams.  Without warning, last month he said we were over.   True, we’re not very compatible but we had fun so my heart hurts from missing him.  We work together and are in the same social circles, so I see him almost every day.  How do I remove the hurt from my heart?  I feel like maybe I should change jobs and go to different churches and restaurants so I won’t see him anymore.  How do I stop the pain?”

Andrea responded, “Those you attract to you are a manifestation of your vibration, every time.  They come as evidence of what you’re doing vibrationally, every time. They came because you summoned them with your practiced vibration.”   If you are with your partner as evidence of what you’ve been habitually doing vibrationally, it stands to reason that if you’d like a change, you’ll begin doing things to vibrate in a different place yourself. That can be as simple as focusing on new topics, focusing on new people, focusing on new places.

When parting from any kind of relationship, while it’s freeing to be able to say what you feel and have it all out in the open, there’s no need to go back and rehash “but you said this,” or “you promised that.”  All that becomes irrelevant in the moment that either thinks, “This is no longer my destination.”  Continuing beyond that point is a disservice to both parties.  Now it’s time to move on to better feeling thoughts. 

I never want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with me. No matter who they are or what we’ve been together in the past.  If my man doesn’t crave me, free me up to find the one who does.  I have a fun and happy life on my own, so when a friend comes into my life for a even short time and helps create more joy, that’s an addition to my life.  That’s an upgrade to my life.  At 60, I’ve learned no one stays for long.  Maybe for others, but not in my experience.  Every 3 years or so I need to monk out and be alone a few years and few understand that.

If you have attracted someone as manifestational evidence of your vibration, and you’re no longer in sync, at some point you realize you have different goals and desires.  It doesn’t matter how much you care about each other, you’re paths are no longer walking alongside.  It could be as simple as a pet allergy or work schedule conflict. It could be as simple as deciding, “This isn’t the one for me.  Thought it was.  Wanted it to be.  It’s not. ”

That means do the honorable thing to free them up as soon as possible so they can find the one they are meant to be with, if that is their wish.  People can’t be faulted for declaring love when they feel it, or think they feel it.  We ask them to be open with us, then we are horrified at what they disclose.  We want to be more seasoned and mature on the topic of relationships, but have had so many games programmed into us that few know where to start in an honest and authentic way.  Many players truly do not consider themselves players.  They really don’t know what they don’t know.

So how you you get over a broken heart?  You have an entire life established around you that you turn your focus to.  You reach for better feeling thoughts, such as bringing to mind all the fun things you liked about your partner, and what  fun things you notice in the friends around you.  You begin to go to new places and meet new friends and find churches and events you’re interested in and you begin to check them all out.  Go by yourself, get over not wanting to go anywhere alone. Alone is fun, alone is freeing.

If you happen into an old haunt the two of you used to visit, it may bring up a sadness and melancholy.  If you’re with good friends, it would be good to sit with the heartache a little while and breathe it out silently to yourself for a few breaths.  Then see how quickly your last memory of the place is not you and him/her, but the fun group you’re with tonight.

If everything at home reminds you of him, rearrange it all to your liking. Change every room completely around.  Have friends over for tea to check out the new arrangements.  Smudge the entire home and do an indoor cleansing.  Open all the windows and doors and state your intention that only good flows to you, only good flows from you. You’re clearing away all energy that no longer serves you, known or unknown.  You’re sending it all off into the Light where it may continue to grow and prosper.

I personally am a fan of the Ho’oponopono, a Hawaiian Healing Process .  do it on each person you see in conflict and your world will change.  And the broken heart?  This, too, shall pass.  If someone wants to leave you, accept the gift.  Let them go when they want to go. They’re blessing you!