We’re evolving. People who are afraid of “the bathroom bill” which disallows transgender individuals to use public bathrooms for the sex they identify as, have been taught fear. The following question helped me understand how fear is birthed and how discrimination and racism comes to be. “If a person spent the entirety of their life inside of a pitch dark cave being told every day that the sun was a source of evil, how would they feel after being dragged into daylight? The racist south wasn’t something that appeared overnight…”   

It’s not easy to change your mind about what your folks told you was true. They believed they were keeping you from harm by keeping “them” out. Women think nothing of taking their boys into the ladies’ room but what do men do when in public with their toddler daughters? I’ve held a public bathroom door for an elderly man in a wheelchair to enter, but did anyone help him once he was in there?

This is one example of what happens when education about sex and emotional intimacy is suppressed. We get a nation of those who are under- and mis-informed, who were unable to learn and grow and discover as they grew up. Instead they were indoctrinated into the fears of their fathers, growing up hating – literally hating and wishing and bringing harm to — entire groups of people they’ve never even met.  I pray for the awakening of the ones who were taught there is only one way.