This also goes for questions to a psychic reader, whether they use cards or not. Write your question to show that you accept responsibility for your situation. Consider these two questions:
Should I put my father in a nursing home, or take care of him in my house?
What do I need to know to decide on the best living arrangements for my father?
In the first question, the writer gives up her responsibility for making a decision. She wants the cards to tell her what to do. In the second question, she is simply asking the cards to give her more information. She knows the decision lies with her.
It’s tempting to write the first kind of question. We all seek the certainty that we’re making good choices, but no one can make our decisions for us. Avoid questions that deflect responsibility, such as:
Questions to be answered “Yes” or “No”
Will I get the job at the ad agency?
Can I stick to my diet this month?
Am I ready to retire?
Questions beginning with “Should…”
Should I let my daughter live at home?
Should I go out with Jose?
Should I apply to more than one university?
Questions asking only about time
When will George ask me to marry him?
How long will it take to find a new car?
When will I get my promotion?
Instead, begin your questions with phrases such as these:
Can you give me insight into …
What do I need to understand about …
What is the meaning of …
What is the lesson or purpose of …
What are the circumstances underlying …
How can I improve my chances of …
How might I …