A pal who takes serious issue with what’s going on makes comments like, “he keeps his jacket on so you don’t see his diaper butt.” When people take the attention off the issues and put it on something personal, it dilutes their integrity for me. Personal attacks just show you’re an angry or mean-spirited person. If that is not how you want to be seen, sticking to the issues is how you get issues resolved.  Folks are allowed to make fashion choices we would not make ourselves, like the big boxy look. In nature you learn tricks to appear larger and more intimidating to your prey.