Facebook friend Charlie asked: “Andrea, how and when did you discover your intuitive gifts? Was there a defining moment in time?” I responded, “Hmmm in a word, no. More like I walked a long way in the fog and it’s only when I got home that I realized I was soaking wet. It’s a gradual and ongoing process. I guess a defining moment was when my mom suggested I contact the Psychic Friends Network to do readings as a form of service. I was like, really mom? wtf? She was right. It was a most holy several years working the line. I did it from 1992-1996, sometimes 40-60 readings a day. I wrote about it here Celebrity Clients; Psychic Friends Network
Charlie: In that article you mentioned the examples of the problems people would come to you with, seeking pointed answers. The questions were all the same with different faces. “Why can’t I own up to the responsibility of my own power?” Very interesting…
Andrea: Charlie, you’re right about the same questions. Most of them just need to ask the right question. Suzie doesn’t want to merely know if Joe is going to be her next husband – she wants to know if she’ll ever have a loving reciprocal relationship and how she can help that come about quicker. Maybe he will be her next husband and it will last a year and then she finds the love of her life.
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In the case of Suzie, she thinks she doesn’t want to hear a NO answer to her question “Will I marry my boyfriend?” But as the psychic, I have the higher perspective. I know she DOES want a “no” answer, because that will give her a bigger and better “YES” than she herself can see right now. The difference is in the question that is asked.
So the question is not “Should I put my father in a nursing home, or take care of him in my house?” The better question is “What do I need to know to decide on the best living arrangements for my father?”
The question is not “How might I encourage my mother-in-law to move out?” The more relevant question is, “What do I need to know to get along better with my mother-in-law?”
Know in detail what you want. Don’t ask “How can I improve my work situation?” but ask more specifically, “How can I improve the flow of work between Joe and me?”
Your question must relate to you. Rather than asking “What is behind Joe’s drinking problem?” instead ask “What role do I play in Joe’s drinking problem?”
Place no blame. Rather than asking “Why am I the only one doing chores?” instead ask “How can I foster a spirit of cooperation concerning the chores?”
Instead of asking “How can I make people listen when I’m talking?” ask “What is going on when I try to communicate, but feel others aren’t listening?”
Be confident. Rather than asking, “Can you help me understand why I always blow opportunities?” instead ask “Can you help me find a way to push on to victory?”
I answer their question but more importantly I help them discover their REAL question, then answer that. Truth be told, if they can formulate the right question, they don’t need a psychic to answer it for them. They’ll know the answer themselves.