As I work on my website, sometimes I can’t get the text to edit the way I want it. Maybe I want it to be bold or red and although I highlight the text and click the BOLD button, it doesn’t change. When that begins happening, I can spend hours trying to make it work like it’s supposed to, or I can remember that my shortest route to remedy is going into the html code and editing the text at the source. The sooner I remember to go to Source, the quicker I will be on my way to the next step in what I’m doing. Now if I can just remember that in real life also.
Often when I get into the html code on my webpage, I see there is all sorts of excessive formatting hidden in there, conflicting with each other and confusing the issue. Once I delete it, the text reveals itself. It’s like when aggravating thoughts pop into my head, maybe someone is complaining about the economy or I’m next to a car with their radio loudly playing a news report, or I’m on hold and the news comes on. I can choose to listen to the words and wonder about them and ponder on them and worry about them. I can spend hours or days doing that if I just take in whatever anyone throws at me.
Or I can get quiet and go inside and ask internally What is the truth of this situation? I can go to Source and ask that all excessive formatting be removed so nothing remains but pure Truth. By doing that, I’m asking for the broader view. I’m saying I am ready to see it like it really is. I’m asking that I be allowed to see more options. Kind of like asking for a browser update.
And all browsers are not created equally. I like working on my blog in Firefox, I just like Firefox for browsing in general. However, if I go into the administrative panel of my blog software, I get fewer options with Firefox than I do with Internet Explorer. Like my “Design” and “Theme Editor” buttons just don’t show up on the WordPress page in Firefox, period.
When I am working in my blog or at my website, my brother always helps me by sending me screen shots and step by step instructions. A screen shot is simply where he uses CTRL + PrintScreen to copy what is on his monitor, then CTRL + V to paste it onto a page for me to see. Yesterday he sent me a screen shot of a WordPress page, but what he showed on his monitor was not what appeared on mine. Just this past week we’ve been talking about how pages display differently on the screen depending on which browsers were used. It was a real revelation to me.
That’s what we do, too. The internal filters we use to see the world around us are our browsers. That would explain why some people view the same scene you do, however part of that scene is deleted or not available to them because, in their browser, it just doesn’t show up at all.
And it’s not just that some people do not notice the fine details of their surroundings, like who wore the blue shirt or what Sally takes in her tea. For some people, the option of compassion just doesn’t show up for them. They don’t have a button on their browser option for patience or expansion. So, as far as they see the world, they are maxxed out at all they believe is available to them.
And don’t try to convince them to change browsers. That would be like asking them to have their own eyes surgically removed before they have better ones installed. The idea of that blind period freaks them out so they don’t even want to contemplate it. And heck they are used to where they are anyway. Good, bad, indifferent, they are used to it. And they may have learned to not expect too much anyway…
The only way I’ve found to get someone to change their browser is to sit down with them next to me at the monitor and show them how few keystrokes they need to make their change. Show them how easy it is to do. Demystify the process for them. Make it knowable. Make it feel doable. Let them see by what I do just how it is done and how simple it really is.
In real life, I’ve found the best way to get anyone to want to change to a better life is to let my own life be my example. To let my life be my message. To let others feel hopeful that good things can come their way if they redo some self talk on what the future may hold. Got some stinking thinking? Write a script and read it to yourself everytime that other thought comes up. Sound silly? I don’t care, it works for me.
It’s mostly just reminding myself what I already know. Repeating phrases that I know to be true and repeating them long enough that they overtake the other thoughts and replace them. Phrases like:
1. I know I am in charge of my own wellbeing.
2. I know that what comes to me is a result of how I think about life and how I react to it.
3. It helps me stay focused on the good that is happening in my Now if I do not watch the news or listen to other’s people’s complaints and worries and theories and opinions.
4. I know that I do not need to attract more good into my life, I merely need to release my resistance to the good that is already available to me.
5. I know that I release resistance whenever I do something that is purely fun and enjoyable to me, when I do something that makes me be in the Now, that lets me be happy and lose time in the doing of it. For me that can be gardening, sewing, beading, woodworking. Something that requires my complete and focused attention yet is fun and fulfilling.
6. I’ve found that nothing can help me release resistance more than driving somewhere new, visiting a new place and doing unfamiliar things.
7. I know that anytime I look for the positive aspects in any situation, I find them.
8. I know anytime I sit and make a list of the people I love and the things I appreciate, something in me switches on and I feel better.
9. I know when I feel better, I suddenly see all sorts of opportunity around me that I didn’t notice before.
10. When I see more opportunity available to me, I feel excited about the possibilities.
11. When I feel excited about the possibilities, Life expands around me and good things begin happening.
12. When I feel happy and excited, I know that’s the time for effective creative visualization, and I begin running the best case scenario “what ifs” through my imagination.
13. When I begin to doubt, I return to No. 1 above and reread my list again.