A friend asked, “How do folks deal when you encounter passive aggressive behavior? I find it incredibly difficult to deal with.“ Passive-aggressive behavior is the indirect expression of hostility, such as through procrastination, sarcasm, saying one thing while meaning another, shifting blame, hostile jokes, stubbornness, resentment, sullenness, or deliberate, repeated failure to accomplish tasks for which one is responsible. I used to very much be guilty of saying one thing while meaning another, and of postponing saying No. I responded, “Speaking from experience, that is my own behavior when I forget who I am and go unconscious. When I recognized that, I stopped being triggered when others did it. I realized they are ignorant and not worth the time. The kindest thing to do is to call them on it. I tell friends to do that to me. Some do. Most won’t. I can’t stop unless you call me on my stuff. You’ll learn to do it gracefully, with practice. People want to be authentic and genuine and open but are afraid and insecure of what others might think. Help them be authentic. They’ll either be eternally grateful or they’ll shoot the messenger.”
Yearly Archives: 2014
You don’t want to attract a partner who’s a vibrational match to your grumpiness
When you are feeling all pouty and your partner is not giving you any love, that is just because you are not a vibrational match right then. And trust me, you do not want a partner who is a vibrational match to a pouty puss. I see it happens mostly when one tries to make the partner be everything: the mate, the best friend, the counselor, the fixer, the entertainment director. This is why I have a variety of friends, so I don’t lay the heavy stuff on any one person, and everyone gets to be responsible for their own happiness.
Now here is a good “scared by a helicopter” story!
I wrote on Facebook yesterday, “Good grief, a mysterious low Low LOW flying helicopter just passed directly overhead and it sounded close enough to touch my treetops! It was heading west, a big chinook kinda copter.” A friend shared a hilarious story:
“Years ago, I was traveling and making my way down to Key West … a good friend had a place on Deer Key and I had an open invitation to stay on his place when I was in the area … so I called him up, only to find out that he is away on business, but he gave me the code to his gate and told me to enjoy myself … sweetness, as my friend’s estate was quite large and private … and I’m always down with camping in the Keys … Continue reading
My cat reminds me to think bigger and enlarge my territory
Yinnie my minicow
YinYang laid down for a nap last night with her head on the repeat key of the electric calculator. I keep particular numbers on my digital display as numerology intentions. I just realized that when she hits the repeat key, she’s suggesting I expand my territory to twice what I initially intended. She is my guru for sure.
Using Coconut Oil to Treat Herpes
Extra Virgin, Certified Organic
Another awesome use for coconut oil. I suggest friends keep it on hand as a sensual personal lubricant that is also antiviral, antibacterial and edible. I read dozens of people each month and am surprised the number who tell me they don’t use condoms, even with new partners. A prayer and a handful of coconut oil couldn’t hurt. Note: oil based lubricants degrade latex condoms. Herpes can be a very mild virus with no symptoms for years, until a weakened immune system causes health problems to arise. Friends have had success treating it naturally and I’ve included links to good info here. Coconut oil is derived from the milk in coconuts and consists of coconut fat and lauric acid, a fatty acid that is transformed into monolaurin in the body. Monolaurin is an antiviral, antibacterial substance that can destroy lipid-coated viruses that cause herpes outbreaks. You can consume coconut oil and apply it topically to your skin to treat herpes. It’s simple. Here’s how:
Full moon in Cancer on Wednesday January 15, 2014. I release past thoughts and behaviors that no longer serve me
I had a fire this morning, for the first time in a few months. My first job today was to purge several years’ worth of old financial records. I could have shredded and recycled them but I was due for a time of reflection and a clearing ritual. Full moon is Wednesday and the three days before and after are a powerful time for releasing what no longer serves us. As I crumbled the paper to toss into the chimenea’s blaze, I smiled to note these were statements from my best financial years! It tickled me to see the big dollar amounts on them and the check registers reminded me of what I’d been doing. I was a lot more social then, attending weekly classes and events, attending a dozen conferences and expos a year, dining out a dozen times a week with friends and clients. I had fun but I don’t miss that life. Continue reading
It’s important to have a tribe to sing your song to you when you forget who you are
From http://carladoll6.tumblr.com/post/48154615484/thegodmolecule-here-is-a-tribe-in-africa-where
There is a tribe in Africa where the birth date of a child is counted not from when they were born, nor from when they are conceived but from the day that the child was a thought in its mother’s mind. And when a woman decides that she will have a child, she goes off and sits under a tree, by herself, and she listens until she can hear the song of the child that wants to come. And after she’s heard the song of this child, she comes back to the man who will be the child’s father, and teaches it to him. Continue reading
Do you see good or do you see evil?
What do you read in the image to the left? Some people will read evil, but many will see the good first. Interesting, huh? I didn’t see the evil until it was pointed out to me. The more I looked at it, the more often I saw the evil first. I thought how like Life that is. We go around all happy until the evil is pointed out to us, thanks to the news, etc. After that, it’s hard to not see the evil first, when that’s all they talk about. Sometimes in this image and in Life it’s hard to see past the evil even though I know the good is there. We are programmed by the media to look for the evil, since that’s the most provocative news. For me, it takes daily practice at looking for the good to see it despite appearances. Continue reading
Who you are and what you’ve lived is interesting enough to stand without embellishment and fabrication
I just got a review copy of a friend’s book in the mail. I have many author friends and appreciate their work. I am always delighted when someone uses their actual real life bio and actual real life lessons in their work. How they navigated their real life to get where they are now IS the story. What they really lived and how they really reacted IS important enough on its own, to stand without embelllishment. I grant everyone poetic license, however if you state you are telling an unaltered history, know that it may be read by everyone who knew you at every step of the way. They will delight in seeing any embellishment and in telling everyone they know that it was not the case. One mistruth and your credibility is jeopardized forever. WHO you are and WHAT you’ve lived is story enough, is interesting enough to stand on its own. The real story is when you’re brave enough to tell it.
When the sun sets on this life for you, you will find familiar faces waiting for you
When the sun sets upon this life for you as it will one day for all who reside here, you will open your eyes and see a familiar face. A loved one already waiting there for you, to take your hand lovingly in his; as he guides you to your true home and shows you the wonders therein. Love never dies. You will meet again. Know this as an absolute truth my friend… Tim Tedana
The End of Death As We Know It