It’s interesting how a friend has a real chance for a real love and a real life with a real family and yet jeopardizes it all with his disregard to clearing up his past.  I can understand not wanting to do it before now.  When it’s the right person, you want a clean start.  This is the chance for that.  I suggested he tell the whole truth, as all it takes is her ordering his trial transcript to see he’s fibbed and allowed her to fib on her behalf. The whole truth is one he can’t deny if she wants to move forward in truth with this woman. She will accept the past behavior but may not accept the fact of the continued lie. Whatever it is, tell the truth. I promise it will set you free.