Life begins to get real when you turn away from fighting others and turn to face each other.  Just that.  No audience.  No spotlight. Just the two of you.  On your own.  Daily life, working, paying bills, attending to family and pets, sharing responsibilities.  Do that for 12 months, THEN tell me all about it. If you start now you’ve only got, well, 12 months to go. Until then, don’t stand on the sidelines on someone else’s dollar and tell those in the trenches how to do the work.