Alan Gregory Wonderwheel:  “When I get too involved in the internet with “you this” and “you that” what I do is read what I have written and replace all the “you” with “I” and reread it. I’m usually reminded that I was actually talking about myself and projecting onto the other person. That is why Torei Enji Zenji says
“Even though someone may be a fool,
we can be compassionate.
If someone turns against us,
speaking ill of us and treating us bitterly,
it’s best to bow down:
this is the Buddha appearing to us,
finding ways to free us from our own attachments—
the very ones that have made us suffer
again and again and again.”