In trying to help, she talked so long and loud about what her new friend had already moved past, what had died down months earlier, that she moved him up in the search engine rankings, and not for his best work.  That’s what happens when you make choices from a place of disconnection, for personal inclusion.  This is why you never speak for someone else.  If you don’t know enough to help them, at least stop hurting them in the name of standing up for an underdog.  He’s not an underdog. He’s a man doing his best to get his life together the only way he knows how, and he’s making progress.  Stop seeing him as someone who needs to be fixed and stop identifying him by the label that keeps being brought up.