A friend wrote: “I used to be a carefree happy person. Now, I really don’t know how to be happy without faking it.” FAKING IT IS A VALID ROADWAY INTO IT. You don’t fake it to lie to yourself or anyone. You fake it because you know the sorrow and the horror comes to pass, it does not come to stay. Unless we keep ourselves focused on it. Yes, it’s hard not to focus on an emotional pain you feel so intensely, but you can choose to hold your concentration on other thoughts. It’s a minute by minute, hour by hour practice but it can be done. I promise .

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