I wrote on Facebook this week: “A friend is complaining to me that she did someone a favor and they didn’t acknowledge it or thank her for it. I told her if she did it for acknowledgment or thanks, she might wanna check her agenda. Either do it happily as a gift, or don’t do it at all. That way it won’t eat you up inside.”  One friend commented” “Would you do the favor if you didn’t like them?  This is hard to do if they are mean and spiteful too”  I replied, “I’d do the favor especially if I didn’t like them.  It’s only hard to do if you keep reminding yourself of the mean and spiteful things they do. Where your focus goes is what you keep reacting to.”  Don’t expect to be repaid a favor by the one you did the favor for. If you really knew how it worked, you’d just do favors all over the place and not care who they went to or who they came from.  To paraphrase Mother Teresa, and Kent M. Keith People can be thankless and unappreciative, help them anyway.

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