Come to your lovemaking as Shiva and Shakti would | Andrea de Michaelis – Creating my own reality, one thought at a time

What is our purpose in being together if we do not enrich each other and those around us? A friend and I were discussing sex. She is a very spiritual person but considers sex and spirituality in two different worlds. The greatest optical illusion is separation. Tantra teaches that all aspects of life are special and sacred. It’s the idea of creating heaven on earth and viewing yourself as a god or goddess. In tantra, you learn to form a spiritual connection with everything and everyone. I wrote at Pop Tantra, being single and the elements of a tantric lifestyle that tantra is a lifestyle, which may or may not include a sexual practice. We’re talking here though specifically about the sexual practice, where you worship your Beloved as the embodiment of God. If you do not have a partner, you simply do the practice on your own using visualization.

To a worldly man, a God-intoxicated person
will appear mad and he will laugh at him,
but to the God-intoxicated man,
the worldly appear insane, foolish, misled, blind.
Sai Baba

Make a practice of sharing this intoxication with your Beloved daily during a joint meditation practice. Daily meditation together keeps you bonded. Sit together for 20 minutes a day breathing together silently, eyes closed. One bonding exercise I love is Heart Breaths. I remember the first time I did Heart Breaths. It was back in the 1970’s in a group encounter session. We all sat in a circle and paired with the person next to us. We faced each other, chairs a little offset, my right hand over her heart, her right hand over mine. Left hands over right hands. Then we gazed into each others’ eyes silently for four minutes, breathing together. It was very powerful. I’ve also done this alone, hand over my own heart, gazing into my eyes in the mirror. It’s powerful stuff.

Shiva Lingam Temple at the Yoga Shakti Mission

So you can sit together silently for 20 minutes, each offering the world’s troubles up to God on the inhale , and exhaling His love back down into the hearts of the world. Then do 4 minutes of heart breaths, eyes open, then come to your lovemaking as Shiva and Shakti would.

Shiva is the Hindu destroyer god, which means he’s the destroyer of our illusion and the ignorance that stands in the way of humankind’s union and enlightenment. Shiva is a major Hindu deity, worshipped in Hindu temples in the form of the Shiva lingam, which represents the cosmic pillar that unites heaven and earth, in the shape of the phallus, it is the symbol of male creative energy.

The Shiva Lingha / Shakti Yoni

Shakti represents the Divine feminine creative power, sometimes referred to as The Great Divine Mother. Shakti is the agent of all change, and is cosmic existence as well as liberation. Her most significant form is the kundalini shakti force, that flowing Life force we feel when we have chemistry or sexual desire for someone. Shakti is worshipped in the form of the yoni, which represents the origin of life, in the shape of the vagina. It is the symbol of female creative energy.

I’m not talking about role playing, I’m talking about being aware of the greater significance of the Cosmic forces playing out in your life. Myth and legend has a lot to teach us about archetypes and when we understand those, we understand ourselves and human nature more as well. What you want to do is create a setting for the seduction of Spirit to take the reins in your sexual encounter with your Beloved. Become aware of the spiritual energy in the room. Simply your awareness of it will constitute an initiation between the two of you. Make it a practice to use slow, deep breathing and controlled exhales throughout each session.

The male body symbolically holds the key to uniting heaven and earth as well as the continuation of mankind. When you worship your partner’s body as that, you are using the key to unlock a great power within him. Regardless of gender (I will use he and him and his for ease), when his heart opens when you touch him, or yours when he touches you, when that radiant feeling comes over you is the time you begin to breathe it in and then breathe it out into the Universe. You breathe it in as God’s great Love and you breathe it out, sending it into that big bank in the sky that holds good thoughts and hope and healing, that anyone who wants to tap into it, can tap into it.

This is the stuff of real magic, having a daily practice to consciously add good into the Universe while enjoying your Beloved. Eye contact and slow, deep breathing is important, with slow and controlled exhalation. This also regulates the shakti within you and prolongs the pleasurable sensation. The inhale will take care of itself, your job is to slow and control the exhale as you become aware of the radiation of sensation.

That’s one important job of meditation, whether you are conscious of doing it or not, is you are sending up thoughts of peace and security and good feeling and hope and they are depositing into that big bank in the sky they call the global mental plane. So your job in the union of you and your Beloved is to keep him happy and filled with radiant Love so that he can create what God sent him here to create. The more you create the space for him to open up and pour himself out and feel God’s love pouring through him, the more of a beacon he will be free to be. The happier you make him with you, the happier he will naturally make you with him. God always has us give what we want to receive for a reason, it’s his signal to us, it’s the intuitive spidey sense He uses to let us know what the other is thinking and wanting.

Cherokee Proverb: “A woman’s highest calling is to lead a man to his soul, so as to unite him with Source. Her lowest calling is to seduce, separating man from his soul and leave him aimlessly wandering. A man’s highest calling is to protect woman, so she is free to walk the earth unharmed. Man’s lowest calling is to ambush and force his way into the life of a woman.”

A note to a Lover: You’re not here to entangle me nor I you, except in silken sheets. I’m here to set you free to be, you’re here to let me love you as you’ve never been loved before. You think that would be easy. Here, step into this bath and eat this apple while we talk about this great Love.

A note to a Lover: My hands could use your healing touch, to feel you inside my palms takes all my stress. To stroke your long lean body, no thought of end goals, just stroking to stroke and feel the love rising up my palms, into my wrists, up my arms and into my body and filling me with Love from the top down. That is the healing touch. Yes, just this...