I was in a situation once where I had turned down several offers to help me, not wanting to get too tied and obligated to the ones who were offering it.  One night, I got the message “Allow people to give you their gifts.”  I was infused with the message that sometimes you ask for help just to give someone around you the chance to give it.  To give them a chance to serve.  Not so much that you need the help, rather that they so much need to have an opportunity to serve, and want to do it with you.   Like the concept of darshan, just seeing the one who so inspires you is an infusion of shakti to your system, and gives it a reboot.  So consider when you allow someone to help you, them being in your presence for a short time will give them a bit of an awakening, so you’re doing a service also.  It’s all just being in the flow of seva with whoever shows up in front of you.  And maximizes the potential for you both by recognizing that.