A friend asked recently what I thought about her showing interest in someone at her church.  Scenario: she and Domino, her ex, live together because she can’t afford to move out and get a new place.  She drives Domino to work and watches his elderly mom each day.  She’s afraid to get too interested in someone else because if she leaves, Domino has no one to assist him.    Domino has told her she is not “the one” for him, but they get along well so she stays.  The problem is she wants to find “the one” for her, if there is any such creature.  I told her it didn’t matter so much what she did on the physical plane, where she lived, etc. because she could come to a place of understanding  and be able to perceive it differently even in the midst of it.   Of course, moving out would be best, cutting the cord would be best, he’ll find his way, she can find hers.  But not if she’ll continue to feel guilty and obligated to help him “because he hasn’t another friend in the world.”  If she’s going to feel guilty and obligated, there’s no point in moving out.  She can stay and think, “I will focus my attention on whatever and whomever pleases me and from that point on I will attune myself to inner guidance to be show the way, step by step.  I can help Domino arrange for other assistance, to help him attract a good live in nanny for his mom, and he’ll find transportation.  I can remind him of these things, I can let him know it’s possible to attract the perfect scenario as we talk about it  and add more to that thoughtform so it will grow and become reality.”  We’ll know what thoughts she chooses by what shows up next in her life. Nice to know we’re in control of all that, huh?