Domino has been seeing an ex boyfriend. Not with the goal of getting back together,  just hanging out as friends and coworkers. Their split last year was amicable and both are ok with it.  So last week out of the blue, her ex makes a pass and they get cuddly and it was a fun moment, then back to business and pals.  Two days later he’s treating her differently.  Her experience is the easy joking banter is missing. “Did we just mess this up,” she asked?  He says “No, we’re fine,” but he’s acting like somethin sup. 

I believe exes should remain exes.  Don’t go backwards. You parted for a reason. Get together when it’s fun and convenient, and be apart when it’s not. Don’t discuss the relationship. Don’t overthink it.  Remember no matter how amicable the split, find someone else to discuss your most private thoughts with.  For me, the magic and the fun lies in the interaction and the sexual tension, if any, so I wouldn’t do anything that dissipated that tension = no sex.  Right now it’s about having adventures and encouraging each other in your separate dreams, being each other’s artistic muses.  Once you have sex, that can change everything if one of you is weirded out by it.  And you never know who will be until it happens.

She was surprised it was him.  Give the emotional body 48 hours to react.  This is where meditation comes in handy. If you’re a regular meditator, when these thoughts rise and fall, you can shift easily into the observer stance, and not be rocked emotionally by the waves caused by the mindstuff of the thoughts. Regular meditation gives you more discipline over your thoughts, so it’s easier to work emotions out as they arise.  If he’s acting differently, that’s what she’ll react to. If everyone is acting and reacting, that doesn’t sound fun to me.  Make an agreement to leave the past behind, completely, and that means day by day as well.  That way, no matter what happens, together or apart, everyone wins.

Afternote: Two days later her ex hooked up with a mutual friend, so there’s her answer.  That’s the end of that story.  I love when the Universe makes the decision for us.