Brushing my hair last night, I posted on Facebook: “Years ago I had a mate who would brush my hair and massage my scalp and it was the best lovemaking ever. That might be an Aries thang.” It turned into an interesting thread:
Jay Smith: “It’s not so much an Aries thing as it is that most men are self centered – very few are enlightened and know that you have to “Give to Live”. Hate to say that about my own pack but… I used to brush my ex’s hair and massage her neck and scalp every night. I’d swear it was more for me as I would look younger every day back then.”
Andrea: “Jay LOL yes, from the women I speak to the last 20+ years, the main complaint about sex is that men get wrapped up in the pleasure we give them, thinking that’s all WE need for satisfaction. Once they have an erection, many think their job is done. Ours becomes mostly emotional satisfaction knowing we give them pleasure. Rather than be aggravated they don’t reciprocate with touch, we take care of that ourselves later. Few and far between are men who are conscious lovers.”
Jay Smith: “Aghh truth is – most of us are just pigs, my wife got the disease of schizophrenia a few years after we married – so I studied books and I already had the Emmet Fox catalog all but memorized – I found ways to unlock my subconscious and find my true higher self so I could help her. Made me a better man, and the things that go with that. Made me a very understanding man if anything. But she did quit taking her meds and tried to kill me and we can’t be together anymore. It’s been a year and I still miss her – but the woman I married is gone. Literally – last I heard she was up North some place. I sleep well at night now.”
Shakti G: “Why bother if not mutual? Best advice you gave my hubs was all the magic is before putting it in, or else your trying to have a stew without a fire.”
Andrea: “Jay: you’re wise and rare man, glad we’ve connected.
Shakti: reciprocity/mutuality is subjective meaning it’s in the eye/heart of the beholder. Sexual touch can be healing. For one partner, that may mean the emotional satisfaction of bringing pleasure to one they love, as a devotional honoring. For the other: just release of tension. For energy workers, a way to bring peace and contentment to the global mental plane, helping entrain the global thoughtform to a more joyous place.”
Jay Smith: “Holy Shakti I thought I was the only one who knew about this stuff, I was a rare man til you just said all of that – now you know the secrets I don’t feel so special any more. Actually I did not know any of that, but I have it memorized now. Wise yes, Special – not so much, I have taken a year off to heal and haven’t dated or been out there in the scene. So I’m pretty ordinary and boring, I hang pictures on Facebook and pick on my friends in the wee hours after studying – that’s pretty boring.”
Andrea: “Jay, that’s not boring, if it makes you happy, that’s the stuff of life!”
Jay Smith: “You’re just too nice, see now I’m never going to be able to pick on you after studying and hanging some pictures here on Facebook every-night. You’ve just ruined my routine, my ritual for Facebook Friends now haven’t you? Gone made me change my path of enlightenment you have. Thank you.”
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