When you notice something bothers you and you keep on noticing it and you talk about it and you look for evidence of it, that is the mechanism by which it continues to bother you.

You attract what you think about, whether you want it or not
When thinking positive doesn’t help
If You Can Pretend For Just One Day, You Can Change Your World
Hanging On To The Wound By Telling The Old Story
Stop Telling That Story: Program Your Inner Dialogue To Propel You Forward
When people don’t know that they don’t know
It’s All Related