Adam Tritt said on Facebook this week, “When people are trying to help in unhelpful ways, know how to say ‘Thank you but no. My fish would not enjoy being safe in that tree.‘ If I ask for a few ounces of help, I will end up with a few pounds and some of it of a type I can’t use, even when I say so. Sometimes I ask for an ear, and end up with advice. Or ask for a listen and end with a lecture. It is all appreciated, but it leaves me, sometimes, often, sitting home alone wishing I could ask for assistance but daring not.” I know you understand.