Welcome to the July 2016 issue of Horizons Magazine. I’ve lost many family members and never thought of it as unfair or untimely. It’s just a part of life and I’ve learned that death of the physical body is not the end.
As hard as it is, we have to get used to death. God would not stop an acorn from growing into an oak, nor a tadpole from becoming a frog. Would we keep a toddler in kindergarden or a 6th grader in elementary school? No, we let them graduate to the next phase in the process, so they can continue to learn and grow and become more of what they are meant to be.
Remember that “we” survive after death of the physical body. “We” survive in consciousness after the change called death. Loved ones are never gone, they’ve just stepped into a nearby room. There is now a thin wall between you and them. In quiet times, you will be able to hear and speak through this wall and you will come to know there is no “death.” There is simply moving on to the next dimension.You were meant to know each other in the flesh for only so many years. Move forward with those around you here, now, in this lifetime.
Your loved one is moving on. You’ll hear from them soon, in a dream, in a thought, you’ll have undeniable evidence of their presence. You will experience many “deaths” in your lifetime. What matters is how you live your life afterward, how you move on. Don’t let it get you down. I figure whatever happens is God’s will and, if it’s God’s will, then I must rejoice in it all.
There will always be tragic and sad things happening. There is always so much more good happening than bad. There will always be troubled people who harm. There are always so many more good people than bad. We just have to look for them. We always find what we look for. I look for the good. I look for the silver lining. I look for the helpers.
We freak out about death because we think it’s the end. We don’t know what comes after, so our thought is stuck on oh, no, death! They’re gone! It’s like any other goal. If we’re to demystify it, we have to imagine ourselves on the other side of it.
This is what we do in meditation, it is a daily separation of consciousness from the body. We transcend our awareness of the physical body and brain and find ourselves, maybe just for a split second, in a place of clear consciousness, abundantly free and completely aware of our surroundings as an observer. As you continue to experience that during daily meditation, you lose your fear of “death” since you’ve discovered how to move between the worlds, so to speak, between being the one who is in the body and the one who exists beyond the body.
When this happens, you no longer weep for the death of the caterpillar — you’re excited for what comes next, for the butterfly on its way. In the overall scheme of things, this one life is just a moment in time. Every loved one who disappears from it during your lifetime, you’ll see again, I assure you.
Despite being married five times — three of them passed — I’ve tended to be a solitary person, learning to not let my happiness depend on another person. The first deaths crushed me, so I asked Spirit to let me see it in a way that was free of pain. Asking within attracts answers. I was always focused upon my own happiness, so I always had interests and activities outside the relationship. The first time, one person had been everything to me for years. I was devastated and lost without him. I never let that happen again. I never let one person be my world again.
Instead, via meditation, a new world opened up and revealed itself to me. I began to find supreme satisfaction and joy in a lot of small, subtle things. Relationship with any one person was less and less on the agenda as I began to feel “in relation-ship” with every thing and every one around me. Deaths of loved ones affected me less and less as I came to understand that “death” is not the end.
I read books on “life after death” and before meditation would ask to be guided to other people and books who could answer my questions. I read books by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, Raymond Moody, Dannion Brinkley, Bill Guggenheim, now you can read Eben Alexander, Stephen Levine, and Annie Kagan’s The Afterlife of Billy Fingers. Knowledge is power.
Once I heard first person accounts of what came after “death,” I realized “life” did not stop when the physical body dropped. When I was able to envision what life “after” death was like, it stopped being this giant scary wall and I stopped freaking out when friends died. I would later come to realize all that happened was that they dropped temporarily out of my range, like a radio signal that would get clearer as I turned the dial via meditation. In meditation, I’d learn how to tune in to connect with them again.
In meditation, I step into that easy flow of pure awareness that everything around me — despite appearances — is in perfect order and as it should be. In meditation, I step into the awareness of the big picture, where although this life is a just a moment in time in the overall scheme of existence, it can be an immensely fulfilling and meaningful life. All I have to do is — via daily meditation — begin to step into it that stream by quieting my mind, breathing consciously, and asking for the experience of separating my consciousness from my body. If you’ve had even a glimpse of the experience before, bring that experience to mind. If you’ve read of someone’s experience, bring that experience to mind. Imagine how it would feel to be awake and aware in the moment, free of the body.
Making yourself think these thoughts and bring these things to mind is a visualization exercise that will make you begin to resonate in harmony with having the experience of separation of your consciousness from your body. The moment you relax enough to release any conscious or unconscious resistance, you’ll have the experience. Keep breathing through it, slowly and steadily. Keep your main focus on your breath, no matter what other images or experiences flash around you. Maintaining your breath is what keeps you dialed into the frequency of that channel, so to speak. Lose focus of your breath and you’ll lose the signal, but bring it back and you’ll drift back into it.
Here’s a process.
1. Sit upright in a position that allows you to relax.
2. Recall in detail any prior experience you or someone else had of existing outside the body.
3. Breathe naturally, slowly and steadily, keeping your focus on your breath.
4. As thoughts and images rise and fall, stay focused on your breath while you observe them peripherally.
5. When you begin having the experience,
the longer you can stay focused on your breath, the longer it will last.
Enjoy our offering this month. Hari Om.