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FROM THE HEART what serves me, and away from what is not in my best inter-
est. Evolution makes certain activities obnoxious for a good

Alan Cohen is the author of The Grace Factor: reason, while it makes other endeavors very tasty.
Opening the Door to Infinite Love. Become a Perhaps you, too, have questioned or judged yourself for being
certified professional life coach though Alan’s too sensitive or not feeling at home in the mainstream. When I
transformational Life Coach Training beginning ask my seminar audiences, “How many of you believe or have
September 1. For more information about this pro- been told that you’re weird?” Almost everyone raises their
gram, his books and videos, free daily inspirational hand.
quotes, online courses, and weekly radio show,
visit www.alancohen.com.
I want to offer you a radical way of looking at your sensitiv-
When Weird becomes Wonderful ity and dissatisfaction with the mainstream: It’s not you that
it weird. It is the world. A Course in Miracles tells us that
the world we have invented is the inverse of the way we are
I remember the first time I could no longer toler- supposed to live. What is wrong seems right and what is right
ate what used to be acceptable. After watching a movie seems wrong.
that showed a character being shot and throwing up, I felt
nauseous. This was not long after I started on my spiritual The world is like a photographic negative where black appears
path, meditating, doing yoga, and lightening my diet. Until white and white appears black, and what you look at makes no
that time I could watch any film with violence, war, or creepy sense. So accept your oddity as confirmation from Spirit that
monsters. I grew up in a New Jersey housing project, which you are on the right track. As British playwright Tom Stoppard
effectively desensitized me to anything that would bother wrote, “It’s the best possible time to be alive, when almost
most people. In college I was in a party fraternity; nothing you everything you thought you knew is wrong!”
could do could gross me out.
So now what? Do you just hide in a cave and wait for the world
How I felt after that movie was at turning point. From then to change so you can fit into it? That will probably not happen
on, things that used to be fun or entertaining seemed heavy anytime soon. In the meantime, here are some things you can
or pointless. My friends changed and I quit hanging out in know and do until the world catches up with sanity.
conversations of complaint. The kinds of entertainment that
appealed to me changed. I lightened my diet. All that letting 1. Be extremely honest about what empowers you and what
go made space for new friends and more rewarding activities. debilitates you. Tell the truth about what is “It” for you and
I was going through a spiritual evolution. If you are reading what is “Not It.” Let your preferences about where you find
this article, you know exactly what I am talking about. yourself propel you to where you want to be.
Over the years that process has not stopped. It has acceler- 2. Trust that you are being guided. You don’t need to apolo-
ated. Now a lot of what used to seem like fun brings me down. gize for your perfect evolution. If you believe in your intuition,
I don’t engage in joke telling sessions. Mall seem like another you will be nurtured, sheltered, and directed. Don’t overthink
planet. Television and the news are surreal. Dee and I peruse your promptings. Be open to clear knowing.
streaming movie service menus, and we are hard-pressed to
find movies we value. We can sometimes ferret out something 3. Act on your guidance. Say yes to what works and no to
of interest, but only after extensive digging. We look at the what doesn’t work. Most people can benefit from setting
offerings, scratch our heads, and wonder, “Who would pay to healthier boundaries. Remember that a “no” to what is Not It
watch a movie like that?” is a “yes” to what is It.

Part of my mind questions if I am being too picky or a snob. 4. Don’t be afraid to let go of what you have outgrown.
But I can’t make believe I can do stuff that leaves me feeling Many of my coaching clients report that they have old friends
awful. I have to trust that my inner being is guiding me toward they don’t enjoy being with anymore. These friends want to
continue a pattern of gossip and negativity, and my clients
feel guilty about saying no to invitations to which they have
Are you considered a “Medical Mystery”? traditionally said yes. If you can upgrade the relationship with
Try something new... loving communication, do so. If not, follow the river around
the next bend.

5. Cultivate new connections, activities, and habits that
match your evolution. When Dee and I can’t find a movie, we
watch a spiritual seminar video, listen to music, play with the
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