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THIS MONTH’S NOT HELPING IS OFTEN THE BEST HELP

I realize I've done that with many friends in my lifetime as
THOUGHTS well. Trying to protect one from the other, trying to mediate.
I find there is so much unsaid, so much they don't share that
ABOUT only the other party knows, that with rare exception it's best
to let them handle it themselves. Step out of it and watch.
THINGS... IT EMPOWERS FRIENDS TO TELL THEM NO

I've learned that often when I stop trying to stand up for
“In the company of one who is living someone who appears unable to do so on their own, they get
Andrea de Michaelis Love, you can’t help but spring into their act together and get the job done. Imagine that.
that Love.” - Sri Sri Ravi Shankar
Publisher in 2016
THE MOST HELPFUL THING I CAN DO FOR YOU IS
HELP YOU KEEP YOUR DOLLAR KARMA CLEAN
HELLO AND WELCOME TO THE OCTOBER 2018
HORIZONS MAGAZINE. The weather is finally cooling off. I've learned one of the most helpful things I can do for friends
It’s amazing how much easier things get when it’s not oppres- and clients is help them keep their dollar karma clean. I do
sively hot and humid. Even my cats, they are finally getting this by having them pay on time and helping them realize they
along out of the blue. Well, maybe not out of the blue. It’s have access to much more personal power (and that includes
taken a year. Finally, after a year of Tuxedo Sam being on the dollars) than they have right now. The big way they get evi-
scene, Ben is back sleeping in my bed. I thought it would be a dence of that is by incurring no debt and making dollars hap-
hassle since for the past year I've separated them when Sam pen when dollars need to happen. And if the dollars are not
would get too rambunctious, wanting to play while Ben wants happening where you are, then you go where the dollars
to snooze. I realized I was mostly driving myself crazy trying are. You would not stay where there is no air, why would
to police them and protect Ben. All I needed to do was let you stay where there are no dollars? You can either contin-
them sort it out themselves and they did. Now Sam comes ue to earn the amount that is convenient for you to go after,
in before sundown, giving Ben a chance to meander around or you can decide what you want, go for it and get it done. It
the driveway and into the house without being dive bombed. may take patience and it MAY HAPPEN OVERNIGHT, because
When Ben comes in, Sam goes back out for a few hours. Usu- it happens in the moment of your realization and you're in
ally snoozing on the back porch, Sam comes back in before I charge of when that happens.
go to bed. Ben sleeps on one pillow and Sam on the other, me
in the middle. It's like they suddenly decided at the same time ...continued on page 27...
to get along as soon as I decided to let them duke it out.
BETTER ANGELS SKILLS

WORKSHOP: How to Talk Across the Political Divide

WHAT: There's a lot of stress these days among family members and friends who are divided
politically, and the current polarized public conversation doesn't help. Please join us for a Better
Angels Skills Workshop to learn skills for having respectful conversations that clarify differences,
search for common ground, and affirm the importance of the relationship.
After a presentation, you will have an opportunity to practice conversation skills. You will practice
in a pair with someone of your same political persuasion- red or blue. "Reds" lean conservative
and tend to vote Republican. "Blues" lean liberal and tend to vote Democratic. If you fall some-
where in the middle, you will be asked to choose a perspective for purpose of practicing the skills.
The goal of these conversations is not to change minds. It is to change hearts. It is to understand
and to humanize. It is to lower the volume so that we may better hear one another and better
speak with one another and better be heard by one another.
WHO CAN COME? Anyone interested in having better conversations with individuals on the other
side of the political divide. We are, however, limiting this initial workshop to 25-30. We plan to
conduct other workshops early next year.
FACILITATOR/ORGANIZER: Paul Witte/ Beth Head or Julie Mallis Turner
WHEN: Sunday, Nov. 11th 1:00 p.m. Workshop will end by 4 pm INTERESTED? Contact Paul at pwitte@cfl.rr.com
or 321-243-0161 or 321-431-0637 or Julie at
WHERE: Unity of Melbourne, 2401 N. Harbor City Blvd mallisturner@yahoo.com or 321-266-2786 or
Melbourne, FL 32935 Beth at revbeth@unityofmelbourne.com for info.

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