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4 STRATEGIES TO READ

PEOPLE’S EMOTIONAL ENERGY

Judith Orloff MD is a psychiatrist, intuitive healer, and NY Times bestselling author. The following is an excerpt
from Judith Orloff’s book The Ecstasy of Surrender: 12 Surprising Ways Letting Go Can Empower Your life. Other
bestsellers are Emotional Freedom, Second Sight, Positive Energy, and Intuitive Healing. Dr. Orloff synthesizes
the pearls of traditional medicine with cutting edge knowledge of intuition, energy, and spirituality. Visit www.
drjudithorloff.com

Emotions are a stunning expression of our energy, the To help with this surrender, here’s what to do. When iden-
“vibe” we give off. We register these with intuition. tifying how you energetically respond to others always ask,
Some people feel good to be around; they improve How does my body feel? Does my energy go up or down?
your mood and vitality. Others are draining; you in- Then follow your body’s lead rather than resisting it. In prac-
stinctively want to get away. This “subtle energy” can be tical terms this means: you want to marry someone who in-
felt inches or feet from the body, though it‘s invisible. Indig- creases your energy not drains it, regardless of how perfect
enous cultures honor this energy as life force. In Chinese medi- he or she looks on paper. You want to sit beside a coworker
cine it‘s called chi, a vitality that‘s essential to health. Though who’s positive, not negative. You want to choose friends you
the molecular structure of subtle energy isn’t fully defined, sci- resonate with so that you can nurture each other. Then no-
entists have measured increased photon emissions and electro- tice the positive difference in your life. To experience the
magnetic readings about healers who emit it during their work. pleasure of compatible relationships, use the following tips.

Emotional energy is contagious. It can make the difference STRATEGIES TO READ EMOTIONAL ENERGY
between a toxic and healthy relationship. It’s crucial to get
a clear read on this aspect of anyone you plan to regularly 1. SENSE PEOPLE’S PRESENCE – This is the overall ener-
interact with. Then, you can decide whether a relationship is gy we emit, not necessarily congruent with words or behav-
feasible based on your energetic compatibility. You don’t have ior. It‘s the emotional atmosphere surrounding us like a rain
to force a fit when the energy feels right. Forcing anything is cloud or the sun. For instance, they may give off an aura of
simply the mind’s attempt to interfere with flow. mystery, joy, or sadness. To compare extremes, think of the
Dalai Lama‘s light, compassionate presence versus Charles
When reading emotions, realize that what others say or Manson’s deranged darkness. Presence is also associated with
how they appear frequently don‘t match their energy. You charisma, a personal magnetism that you‘re drawn to. Warn-
must let go of the notion that what you see is what you al- ing: charisma doesn’t always contain heart, something to
ways get. As a psychiatrist, I’ve observed how people go to beware of. Charisma without heart can’t be trusted. It’s a dan-
great lengths, purposely or not, to appear in certain ways— gerous combination present in many con artists and seducers.
either to impress, say the right thing, or sell you on some-
thing—but this “self” isn’t aligned with their true emotions. As you read people notice: does their overall energy feel
warm? Calming? Uplifting? Invigorating like a breath of fresh
Consider these examples: your spouse apologizes for blow- air? Or is it draining? Cold? Detached? Angry? Jarring? De-
ing up but her hostility still lingers. A man you just met tries pressed? Do they have a friendly presence that attracts
to charm you, but you don’t feel much heart there. A friend you? Or are you getting the willies, making you back off.
seems cheerful but you sense that she’s hurting inside.
2. WATCH PEOPLE’S EYES. Our eyes transmit powerful
Realize: just because people smile doesn’t mean they’re happy. energies. Just as the brain has an electromagnetic signal ex-
Or just because people are reserved, doesn’t mean they’re not tending beyond the body, studies indicate that the eyes proj-
ecstatic. Ultimately, the energy transmitted by someone’s smile ect this too. In fact, research reveals that people can sense
and presence tells the truth about where they’re at. So, be when they‘re being stared at, even when no one is in sight—an
smart enough to correlate a person’s energy with their emotions. experience reported by police officers, soldiers and hunters.
Most people aren’t being intentionally misleading—often they Indigenous cultures respect the energy of the eyes. Science
don‘t know what they feel or project. They might tell you one has documented “the look of love.” Joining eyes with a loved
thing—and believe it—but you’ll learn to decode their emotions. one (or dog!) triggers a biochemical response, releasing oxy-
tocin, the warm and fuzzy “love hormone.” The more oxyto-
Surrender: Here, the surrender to focus on is saying “yes” cin your brain has, the more trusting and peaceful you’ll feel.
to the messages your body sends. Your mind may want to
talk you out of your body’s wisdom. Don’t allow it to. Read-
ing energy lets you attune to how you relate to people, who
you feel comfortable around and who you don’t. To avoid bad
relationships and regrets, you must let go of trying to con- ...continued on page 29
vince yourself of anything the body’s intuition doesn’t affirm.

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