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When you’re not so shiny and not that happy – in fact, maybe Often, Cheerleaders are speaking from a place of physical or
you’re actively unhappy, they want to cram you back into mental health privilege. Not always, but lots of times. They
your happy-suit. It’s like they can’t help themselves. In my are totally sincere in their conviction that you can will yourself
experience, they come in five well-meaning flavors: better. You just need to be willing to put in the effort. The
implication is, you could do it if really wanted to.
1. FIRST ARE THE SUGGESTERS.
Your pain is painful for them, probably. Or it triggers something 3. AND THEN THERE ARE THE PROJECTORS.
yucky in them that they don’t want to confront. They want They know exactly what you’re feeling because they’ve been
it to go away. They have a bucketful of suggestions that you there, or so they think. They know you because they ARE you.
may not have thought of. Have you tried changing your diet? And if they did it, you can do it. Did they ever tell you about
Ingesting turmeric? Herbal tea? Green smoothies? Meditation? the time they went through ____ and overcame it by ____?
This new Rachel Hollis book, “Girl, Wash Your Trauma?” How You should do that. They can totally relate, and they’ll prove
about this other medication? Going off of the medication it by recounting their own experiences ad nauseam while you
you’re taking? Exercise? Affirmations? A Himalayan salt lamp? wonder what in the heck this has to do with you.
Vitamin supplements? Essential oils? Therapy? Prayer? Enemas?
Projectors see the world through the lens of their own experi-
It’s not that these suggestions aren’t helpful, or at the very ences and can only express sympathy by connecting it back to
least relatively harmless. Maybe you’ve tried them. (Though themselves. They don’t usually realize that what they’re
for glob sakes, do NOT go off or start new meds without talking actually doing is called erasure. At some point, your pain
to a doctor. Or supplements, which aren’t regulated by the moves to the back row while their story (it’s a good one, listen
FDA, may contain ingredients you don’t know about, and could to this) takes center stage. There’s a lesson in there for you, if
interact with your medicines.) The problem is the implied you just pay attention.
idea that a “fix” exists, and you just haven’t found it, yet.
You aren’t looking hard enough. 4. NEXT UP, THE CAJOLERS.
They just want to make you happy. “Make” being the opera-
2. NEXT ARE THE CHEERLEADERS. tive word. Don’t you know all the things you have to be happy
They just KNOW that you can do it! All you have to do is think about? Here’s a list. You are so #blessed. There’s no reason for
positive. Believe in yourself! Reject defeat! Don’t dwell on you to be sad or tired or frustrated when so much goodness ex-
your pain – that’s self-indulgent. It’s all about willpower. Have ists. Still not working? They’ll try to make you laugh, because
faith! It’s going to be all right. You see it, you like it, you want if you do, that means you’re better.
it, you got it. Wait, sorry, that’s Ariana Grande.
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