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This month’s thoughts We always attract into our experience someone who resonates

about things... vibrationally with where we are, so we need to make sure
we’re where we want to be. We want to be honest, we want
to be kind, we want to be self sufficient, we want to be moti-
“I want to look back on my life and be giddy with vated by a passion, we want friends who inspire us to a shared
joy that I was the one who got to live it.”
purpose, we want to make a difference, we want to harm
... from page 7 .. none. Whatever we’re successfully aspiring to is what will
come back to us, Make sure it’s the good stuff.

So keep in mind all the things you like about him, just remove
ANDREA RESPONDS: It’s just the old ebb and flow, the rubber his face and name from the equation. Every man you pass,
band effect of the new encounter. Detach for a few days and it consider what you might like about him. This exercise brings
will resume. You may not hear from him this weekend so stay you in vibrational resonance long enough to begin the attrac-
mobile. I don’t feel a giant connection with him just yet but tion process. Just a few minutes a day is all you need.
he’s not gone. When I “feel” the connection, I’m feeling the
emotional attachment. He doesn’t attach easily or well but Visualizing isn’t just seeing the picture, visualizing has to do
he’s not being aloof, he’s just slow to make his way because with recreating the emotion and practicing the emotion you
he’s learned the lesson of getting too close too soon. He knows want to feel with the new person. Practice seeing yourself do-
the infatuation period is where much talk and defining can ing activities you would do with those persons and practice the
ruin what might become. When a man starts to back away, emotion you would be having while you were doing the activi-
you should do the same. Not as a game of cat and mouse but ties in real life with this person.
to restore balance and desire in a relationship by reading the
signs that he needs time and space to integrate. If you’re doing the visualization, if you’re doing the exercise
of seeing each man who crosses your path (even in scenes on
I feel you have a good assessment of him. Compartmentalizing tv) as “what if him?” then you will begin dropping resistance.
his life is how he stays focused and productive. When he’s with When you’ve dropped resistance, you will either attract some-
you, he’s WITH you. When he’s at work, he’s at WORK. When one else or you will attract a call out of this one.
he attends friend and family obligations, he’s THERE. When
he’s with you, the best way to communicate with him not feel- Only if you still have resistance will you remember he’s
ing emotionally overloaded (due to family etc stuff) is to keep gone and long for his call. Each time you feel the longing,
to topics of current events and what you think of them, unless remind yourself it’s nice to care about someone, to want
he chooses to ask about family or particular past events or their call. You and he got along well, you would love to at-
future plans. Let him lead the conversation to personal stuff. tract someone with his good qualities, someone who is seeking
Right now he’s soothed by light romance and engaging conver- someone like you and someone emotionally available, with
sation. Further emotional responsibility feels burdensome to time for a relationship. These are thoughts to help you ma-
him right now. He has many financial obligations but he's on neuver successfully away from the feeling of longing as in
top of them. He’s not telling you everything but he’s also not lack, toward a feeling of expectation for what is on the
hiding anything. He’s got a lot going on. There are no red flags. way.
Basically right now he’s got a lot of balls in the air and only The only time it’s delayed is when you get caught in the self
so much time. Sit tight, you’re still in rotation, at least in his talk loop of “why did he stop calling? what’s wrong with me?
mind. I’d not text or call, just do other things with enough fo- what went wrong?” that kind of stuff. Your self talk motivates
cus that you have fun and forget he hasn’t called yet. Mentally you, so make sure you do it On Purpose.
chalk it off to, “he’s busy, I’ll let him get back to me, so what
if it’s 2 weeks, we’re both busy and I understand.” Right now he’s spending as much time as he has for you and
when you are apart, he’s just involved in other things. He feels
After a week long family reunion with people who see you as a a connection to you that he wants to explore but, again, time.
money source, you’d need some silent after time as well.
As you do the attraction technique above, you may begin at-
Here’s a short visualization exercise, an emotional feeling tracting a closer connection with him or it may be someone
workshop, to get you vibing in the place you want to vibe new altogether. Either way you win. I feel
to attract what you want to attract. you’re very much in his mind but he is used to
the rubber band of emotions in a new infatua-
An effective technique is to keep in mind all the things you like tion so he allows cooling off time.
about him, just remove his face and name from the equation.
Every man you pass, consider what you might like about him. To end, author John Gray explains the rubber
As you consider that, keep in mind that the reason you are band effect on page 12 of this magazine.
doing this exercise is reach vibrational resonance and hold it
there long enough to begin the attraction process. Just a few Enjoy our offering this month.
minutes a few times a day is all you need to do. Hari Om. Andrea

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