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STRATEGIES TO READ
EMOTIONAL ENERGY taste—I often fall for wild, creative men. Yet he was smart,
boyishly playful, seemed to “see” me and respect my sensitivi-
ties. We could discuss anything from politics to the nature of
the universe and he’d speak to me in an appreciative low tone
...continued from page 16 of voice I melted around. Still, from the start, when I looked
into Todd’s eyes, I had the oddest feeling—there was no “there”
there. His eyes seemed cold, vacant, even a touch mean.

However, for better or worse, I was drawn to him, which doesn’t
Take time to observe people’s eyes. Are they caring? Tranquil? happen to me every day. I really wanted to surrender to my ro-
Mean? Angry? The way others look at you can make you feel adored mantic feelings for Todd, to explain away the niggling truth his
or afraid. Certain people’s eyes can be hypnotic. Avoid looking eyes conveyed, though I knew I ignored this red flag at my own
deeply into eyes you distrust or sense may be dangerous. The peril. But, as the desiring mind can do when it wants something,
less you engage negative people, the less they’ll zone in on you. it downplayed intuition. I rationalized, “You‘re just too picky.
Todd is wonderful. It‘s crazy to let his eyes stop me.” My friends
3. LISTEN FOR PEOPLE’S TONE OF VOICE AND LAUGH also told me this, and I agreed. So, for a year, I stayed in the rela-
– The tone and volume of our voice can tell much about our emo- tionship. But in the end, this man‘s eyes revealed his true colors.
tions. Sound frequencies create vibrations. Some frequencies we
hear. Below an audible range, sound can be felt (think of a bass vi- The problem was that Todd was a super-smooth operator
bration.) When reading people, notice how their tone of voice af- and my raging hormones were blinding me. Also, I was na-
fects you. Words ride the energy of tone, its warmth and coldness. ive. I confused his seductive energy with heartfelt caring and
was horribly susceptible to the charisma he wielded so well.
Ask yourself: Does their tone feel soothing? Or is it abra- It was a perfect storm of forces I didn’t have a handle on. I
sive, snippy, or whiny? Are they a soft-talker or mumbler needed to sort them through before I could read him from a
whom you can barely hear, signs of meekness or low self- neutral place which at that time was light years away. A pol-
esteem? Or do they talk too loud or too much, signs of anxi- icy of mine is to study what makes me weak or strong,
ety, narcissism, or insensitivity. Are they fast-talkers, try- so I can learn from it. If something knocks me off my cen-
ing to sell you something? Or boring you to death with a ter I want to know why and not repeat the situation.
slow monotone, suggesting depression and no spontaneity?
To break Todd’s spell, I had to grasp that what excited him
Be aware of sighing which relays sadness or frustration. Also, most was not to love me but to have power over me. I just
a pinched voice suggests emotional repression, over control, couldn’t grasp how he or anyone could feel that way. He‘d reel
or a thyroid disorder. Always observe how much people laugh, me in with gorgeous intimacy, then be unavailable. Or he‘d be
a sign of lightheartedness. Does their laugh sound genuine? incredibly sensitive, then incredibly cold. I kept wracking my
Fake? Child-like? Joyous? Or are they overly serious, rarely brains, “What could he possibly be getting from this.” Slowly,
laughing? In addition, FBI profilers interpret a quivering voice I came to understand that he got off on the rush of being in
and sudden change in pitch as potential signs of deception. control. For him, it was an aphrodisiac. I didn’t operate like
this, nor had that been a dynamic in my past relationships.
4. SENSE PEOPLE’S HEART ENERGY – The most important
aspect to read about energy is whether people exude a sense But, thanks to Todd, I can recognize it now. In retrospect,
of heart. This is the loving-kindness in us, our capacity for em- I‘m grateful to have learned this lesson about power ver-
pathy, giving and connection. When heart is present you‘ll feel sus love from a perfect teacher. Also, I realized that once
the warmth of unconditional love emanating from others which again, I’d talked myself out of intuition in favor of pas-
makes you feel safe and at ease. It‘s the unspoken sense of be- sion. I’d surrendered to the wrong thing, to what I wanted,
ing accepted, not judged. No one can fake this. Our heart pres- rather than what I “saw.” However, being human, some-
ence builds through our good intentions, deeds and emotional times I have to keep making the same mistakes until I finally
work to overcome fear and negativity. The heart is the most learn. Today, I value the energy of the eyes more than ever.
positive quality anyone can have. It‘s healthy to be drawn to it. It communicates an essence in someone if we can trust this.

Reading energy is a game-changer where intense emotions blur In your life, get used to reading people’s emotions. Factor what
your clarity. It enables you to see past fantasies or desires to pinpoint you sense into your total assessment. Maybe just a single red flag
someone‘s motivations by sensing invisible messages they give off. will appear so you‘re not sure what to do. Then, take your time.
Watch how people treat you. Notice if their words back up their
I was once attracted to a man, a successful financial manag- behavior. The purpose of reading energy is to become more em-
er who knew exactly what to say to melt my heart. Todd was pathic by sensing the nuances of different personalities. Stay alert
from the country club set and much too conservative for my to the signals energy sends so that you can see the whole person.

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