{"id":7484,"date":"2010-02-11T07:04:02","date_gmt":"2010-02-11T12:04:02","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/?p=7484"},"modified":"2010-02-11T07:04:02","modified_gmt":"2010-02-11T12:04:02","slug":"revisiting-millionaire-matchmaker","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/revisiting-millionaire-matchmaker\/","title":{"rendered":"Revisiting Millionaire Matchmaker"},"content":{"rendered":"
\n
\n
\"Photo<\/a><\/dt>\n<\/dl>\n<\/div>\n

I wrote last year at Millionaire Matchmaker ~ On Mating, Matching and Pairbonding<\/a> my thoughts on the show.\u00a0 Now I see there’s a new season and I watched an episode last night.\u00a0 The first thing I notice is that Matchmaker Patti Stanger<\/a> has either slimmed down since last season, or is wearing less frumpy outfits.\u00a0 BravoTV has her promo photo wearing a short, tightish dress and she looks good and her legs look great.<\/em> Great choice of image!\u00a0 She’d look younger without the tan and frosted shadow and gloss, but she goes for that ethnic look. The show is edited to highlight Patti’s abrupt way with people: she verbally cuts them off and cuts to the chase.\u00a0 There are ways to do that and be diplomatic and gracious, but Patti often seems to delight in being rude and disrespectful.\u00a0 Granted, 90% of the people she seems to work with are posers, but that’s the territory, it’s Los Angeles.<\/p>\n

Historically, rich men have never had a problem finding beautiful women, and vice versa. <\/em> The show is an entertaining watch and I’m sure the millionaires and the beautiful women all are eager for their 15 minutes of fame on national tv.\u00a0 In Patty’s defense, she is dealing with lotsa gold diggers that she has to train into some semblance of how to not appear to be a gold digger<\/em>, at least not during the first meetings.\u00a0 With the millionaires, there are a lot of ego driven, narcissistic men that Patti wastes no time in cutting down to size. She’s got that sarcastic, caustic Jersey Shore, I’m a tough chick<\/em> kind of personality and she speaks her mind.\u00a0 Often she brings in a life coach and does a makeover. Some of the guys are definitely more refined by the time they get to the date, because Patti has some good advice.<\/p>\n

The problem, of course, is that neither party is being themselves on the first date, although some are – to their detriment.\u00a0 I always think a first date is to see if there’s enough chemistry or interest to schedule a second.\u00a0 I believe in keeping it casual the first few times you hang out, talk to each other about real things happening in your life – more about your hopes and ambitions, than about your past and your exes.<\/p>\n

I think when men, as Patti suggests, do pull wildly romantic stunts on first dates, of course it’s going to sweep some chicks off their feet and help the man gain an emotional advantage.\u00a0 If that’s all you’re going for, go for it.\u00a0 But don’t set a precedent you’re not going to keep up with.\u00a0 You don’t really need to get a first date’s attention with hundreds of roses and a helicopter ride.\u00a0 How do you know thereafter if she likes you for who you are, rather than what you can provide for her?<\/p>\n

I had a boss, circa 1971, who loved to tell a joke to all the sassy new young secretaries that he liked to cut down to size.\u00a0 I paraphrase, but you’ll get the drift:\u00a0 A man takes his first trip out to Las Vegas, it’s his first trip anywhere out of his hometown.\u00a0 It’s also his first flight.\u00a0 he’s got a window seat, a pretty flight attendant is serving his lunch and drinks, “There’s sure nothing like this in Hoboken<\/em>,” he thinks.<\/p>\n

He gets into Las Vegas and asks the cabby to take a drive down the strip and take him to a casino.\u00a0 “There’s nothing like this in Hoboken.” <\/em>he says.\u00a0 He gambles all night, he wins lots of money, he’s got girls hanging all over him.\u00a0 “There’s sure nothing like this in Hoboken.”<\/em> He choses the best looking girl, they go drinking and dancing and end up at his hotel room.\u00a0 She’s beautiful.\u00a0 “There’s nothing like this in Hoboken,”<\/em> he says. The entire trip has been a surprise and delight, so many new experiences.\u00a0 He can hardly wait for what’s to come.\u00a0 She undresses.\u00a0 The lights go out. “Ah,” he says, “just like Hoboken.”<\/em><\/p>\n

While I agree it’s wise to put your best foot forward during your initial meetings, make sure it is still the real you.\u00a0 Guys, don’t give an inventory of what you own.\u00a0 That just ensures you will never know if she’d like you without that being dangled as bait.\u00a0\u00a0 One male friend tells me, “I don’t care, as long as I feel it’s a fair trade off.<\/em>”\u00a0 That’s fair enough.\u00a0 Women, don’t give a sob story of how you’re barely paying your bills.\u00a0 Savvy men don’t fall for that wounded bird take me under your wing please<\/em> storyline.\u00a0 You’re worth more than that.\u00a0 Your partner is worth having more than that.<\/p>\n

Be real from the beginning and let that take you where it will.\u00a0 If I were to go on a “first date” with someone, I would allow myself to be In The Moment with them, learning what their interests are, sharing mine, and if I felt a connection I would let them know it. That doesn’t mean they are my future husband, but it means I feel a connection and would like to explore it.\u00a0 And if I feel it and they don’t, or vice versa<\/em>?\u00a0 Oh, well.\u00a0 I don’t take things like that personally.\u00a0 Rejection is protection<\/em>.<\/p>\n

So, Millionaire Matchmaker,<\/a> it’s a show I’ll watch.\u00a0 Although I’d really like to see Patti soften up a little although, having said that, I realize that’s her schtick, that’s is part of her draw, kind of like the simon Cowell personality.\u00a0 And if I find her personality (maybe edited to seem) abrasive, I’m sure they won’t mind.\u00a0 I’m not their target audience.\u00a0 I don’t buy their products.\u00a0 I like Bravo TV <\/a>and watch many of their shows.\u00a0 They are smart; they know who the consumers are and they target their audience.<\/p>\n

So if I don’t like something, that’s ok.\u00a0 They don’t mind.\u00a0 We both know it’s my problem.\u00a0 It always is.<\/p>\n

In case the FTC is wondering<\/span><\/a>, I am not endorsing anyone.<\/p>\n

\"Add<\/a><\/p>\n

LEARN FREE: The Secret2Dollars.<\/a> No cost, no kidding. <\/span>
\n<\/span>LISTEN FREE<\/span>: You Are Not The Body<\/a>
\nThe End of Death As We Know It<\/a><\/p>\n

<\/a><\/a><\/a><\/a>
<\/a><\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t