{"id":40925,"date":"2013-04-22T07:50:05","date_gmt":"2013-04-22T12:50:05","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/?p=40925"},"modified":"2015-06-02T07:51:43","modified_gmt":"2015-06-02T12:51:43","slug":"a-married-boyfriend-proposes-is-it-a-red-flag-he-has-so-many-loose-ends-from-the-past-and-has-no-one-to-help-him-but-her","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/a-married-boyfriend-proposes-is-it-a-red-flag-he-has-so-many-loose-ends-from-the-past-and-has-no-one-to-help-him-but-her\/","title":{"rendered":"A married boyfriend proposes: is it a red flag he has so many loose ends from the past and has no one to help him but her?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Domino<\/a>\u00a0isn\u2019t sure if she should be flattered or wary as her new boyfriend proposed on their one month anniversary. \u00a0It\u2019s new love, she wants happiness, but is also careful who she involves with her kids. \u00a0Infatuated as they are right now, she knows\u00a0he has a wife and child he left a year ago. \u00a0He has much unfinished business with them \u2014 emotional, legal, financial \u2014 before they even talk divorce. \u00a0His daughter and wife read about his romance on his Facebook page and asked him to please cool it while they are still married. He doesn\u2019t seem to care they found it hurtful.\u00a0 Domino doesn\u2019t know the truth of his past, so she doesn\u2019t judge.\u00a0He left his last 3 relationships (after leaving wife) not on good terms. She\u2019s not sure who or what to believe. All she knows is what she feels. \u00a0She feels led to follow her heart, and believe him. I told her the fact they have such chemistry and rapport is the Universe\u2019s way of letting them know they have karmic work. They will be together as long as they are in vibrational resonance. As in dancing, let the stronger one lead.\u00a0\u00a0 <\/p>\n

But\u00a0just\u00a0because something feels familiar and comfortable doesn\u2019t mean it\u2019s good for you. When\u00a0people go from one abusive relationship to another, it\u2019s because that is what feels normal, it\u2019s what feels familiar. Being able to adjust to an abnormal situation isn\u2019t always healthy. \u00a0Only she can decide if the overall situation leaves her with a feeling of forward motion, needing more info or holding her back. Until she gathers the info she needs, I told her to use the thoughts of their good times and loving feelings as fuel for her\u00a0creative visualization<\/a>. That\u00a0will help attract resolution, and answer for her how does a man get himself to a place in life where he has no friends, no means of income and no one to count on except her?<\/p>\n

It feels\u201d all good\u201d as it always does in the beginning, all very \u201cus against the world, no one else gets US but US.\u201d \u00a0It has all fallen into place so synchronistically that it feels like fate or karma while it is always and only about vibrational matching. She\u2019s the only one who chooses what to give priority and focus to. She\u2019ll make the choice from the perspective she holds, with the info she\u2019s been given, and the understanding she\u2019s gleaned. And as always, it will be a vibrational match to where she is.\u00a0 I shared on Facebook and got the following relevant insights:<\/p>\n

BC remarked:\u00a0I guess my best council on this \u2026is 2 thoughts. If they\u2019ll do it with you, they\u2019ll do it to you. History not examined and learned from is bound to repeat itself. If she\u2019s willing to live with the consequences, well then have at it. This may be NEW love for her, but seems like business as usual for him. Just sayin.<\/p>\n

ADC commented:\u00a0I have been in a similar situation, and after the shiny new wears off, she will be realize that once a cheater, always a cheater. Never do anything irreparable within a year of starting a new relationship, or ending an old one.<\/p>\n

TLM wrote:\u00a0Ok RED flags BIG time but more for \u201cDomino\u201d for thinking so little of herself as to date a married man. If he\u2019s cheating on her he\u2019ll cheat on you and without trust the relationship is DOOMED!<\/p>\n

BC again:\u00a0Maybe the Lover is a Narcisisist? Sounds Classic. Me Me ME. No concern, for the wife , child, partner. What about ME? A Course In Miracles talks about the difference between Specialness. and being Uniqueness\u2026 It says: \u201cWe are all Unique, like a snowflake\u2026 not special.\u201d But to the narcisist, They are SPECIAL. Of course Special people have special needs. Needs like no one else\u2026.and WE dumbasses\u2026just don\u2019t understand. If you know one, to yourself say \u201cI SEE YOU\u201d and do your best not to feed the beast. Smile and nod\u2026 smile and nod. \u201c)<\/p>\n

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