{"id":40628,"date":"2013-03-02T02:34:17","date_gmt":"2013-03-02T07:34:17","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/?p=40628"},"modified":"2015-05-31T02:37:19","modified_gmt":"2015-05-31T07:37:19","slug":"yesterday-fun-then-jeremys-anger-then-his-wifes-email","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/yesterday-fun-then-jeremys-anger-then-his-wifes-email\/","title":{"rendered":"Yesterday: Fun, then Jeremy\u2019s anger, then his wife\u2019s email"},"content":{"rendered":"

My ex<\/a>\u00a0called last night asking for a file. \u00a0Although all his belongings fit in 3 boxes, one box being his legal papers organized for easy reference, he couldn\u2019t find it. \u00a0I thought it interesting he called Friday evening. \u00a0I\u2019d had a good last couple of days, and was in an up and happy mood. Although I\u2019d overnight\u00a0gotten several messages\u00a0asking if he was ok since mutual friends had not seen him on FB, I didn\u2019t mind being asked. It was good to observe I had no emotional tug on that topic as I read the few. I\u2019d been working in the yard having a great day, feeling good. \u00a0When I saw his number come in on caller id, I had zero emotional twinge from it.\u00a0Oh, good news he\u2019s calling for then, I thought, since it\u2019s always a vbrational match. Maybe he got his permanent job. \u00a0Maybe he\u2019s moving.<\/em>\u00a0He asked about the file. \u00a0I told him where to find it. I asked if he\u2019d gotten my email. \u00a0He cannot get email anymore he said. \u00a0He\u2019d check it when he got home and call me back.<\/p>\n

When he called back, I asked him my emailed questions: \u201cI am still reeling from the conversation I saw you and Misty Dawn (new gf) having (online). Why did you never tell me that was how you felt about me? Was that really how you feel or ever felt? Why after us being apart for two weeks and\u00a0everything fine as friends<\/a>\u00a0did you have to seduce me all over again? Why?\u201d<\/p>\n

His immediately angry answer, \u201cI don\u2019t know what you\u2019re talking about. I don\u2019t know what you thought you saw. You can\u2019t believe everything someone else tells you is true.<\/em>\u201d I said it wasn\u2019t someone else, it was what I saw him typing her,\u00a0right on the screen in front of me<\/a>. \u201cDon\u2019t believe everything you see. \u00a0You don\u2019t know the whole story.<\/em>\u201d He was now in a rage and his words didn\u2019t respond to the question. \u00a0I knew he was frustrated not knowing which conversation of theirs I\u2019d seen. I knew by his attitude that this would not be resolved now. \u00a0He slammed the phone down. He cannot be caught in a lie. The fury comes on in a moment. \u00a0It\u2019s like you never know which one is going to show up at the door or on the phone.<\/p>\n

All he had to do was be a man and answer those simple questions. We would have been good \u2013 no matter what the answers were \u2013 and he\u2019d get his duplicate files. \u00a0But he doesn\u2019t know how to communicate his feelings. \u00a0He knows how to say words that keep you close, but they are only words to get him past the moment. \u00a0I learned months ago that he doesn\u2019t mean them, they are his coping mechanism. The lies are the ritual he needs to ensure he can feel he\u2019s got everything handled. When he hung up, I felt nothing but relief. \u00a0 The whole call took maybe 6 minutes. \u00a0I was back to my happy place right away. Had that call come in while I was in a bad mood, it might have irked me. \u00a0As it was, it was a short blip in time that confirmed recent good decisions.<\/p>\n

BUT WAIT, WE DIDN\u2019T GET TO THE WIFE\u2019S EMAIL YET<\/p>\n

So I\u2019m happily winding down for the day, I\u2019m outside watering, I\u2019m texting with an old friend I\u2019ve reconnected with. \u00a0Still in a happy place, lots of fun synchronicities happening, waving hello to strolling\/biking neighbors. \u00a0I come inside and find an email from Jeremy\u2019s wife. \u00a0Hmmm, since I\u2019m in such a light and fluffy place, it can\u2019t be bad news. \u00a0Right? \u00a0Vibrational match and all that?<\/p>\n

It occurred to me earlier this week that\u00a0some of the crazy messages<\/a>\u00a0I and other women on Jeremy\u2019s Facebook wall\u00a0were getting may not have come from his wife as he said. She could have found me anytime the last year through Google and she knows I live across the street. \u00a0The calls and messages stopped when the new gf came on behind the scene. From his wife\u2019s email, I\u2019m sure she never contacted me before. \u00a0She wrote: \u00a0\u201d We have no knowledge of the messages sent to you. I have sent Jeremy 2 messages since he left my daughter and I in June 2011. I have not sent you any. I\u2019m sorry that he fooled you but I know that you knew it couldn\u2019t possibly work with a man who is married. Leaves his child and does not talk to her on a regular basis. He committed a\u2026 crime\u2026 not as he described it to you. All he cares about is being famous one way or another stepping on whoever or conning his way up. I fully intend to pursue divorce to the fullest extent and make him pay dearly or go back to jail. I just wanted you to remember there are 2 sides to the story. Don\u2019t feel bad in his absence because I have learned the end result is truely my blessing. Sincerely, C\u201d<\/p>\n

I responded to her: \u201cC, hello and thanks for writing. \u00a0\u00a0I have lived across the street from\u00a0Jeremy\u2019s mom for 20+ years. I met him\u00a0Sept 2011.\u00a0 Ours was not a\u00a0love story;\u00a0our long term plans were only\u00a0for honesty and friendship.\u00a0He did fool me<\/a>. I saw his police report when he was in jail. I know\u00a0the facts of the incident<\/a>. I was a paralegal for 22 years. The problem with divorce is that he\u00a0owns nothing and has a low paying job, so even if it\u00a0was on a final judgment of divorce paper saying he\u00a0was obligated\u00a0to pay all your joint debts, he doesn\u2019t have anything, so he can\u2019t pay.\u00a0His criminal charge of indecent exposure is a misdemeanor in Florida meaning he would not be considered a sex offender here.\u00a0He wasn\u2019t\u00a0doing anything (when we hung out) that would send him back to jail.\u00a0I don\u2019t see his FB wall or keep track of what he\u2019s doing now but he knows his probation officer shows up at random times. His new gf has kids\u00a0but his crime didn\u2019t involve a minor so he might be allowed to be around them. \u00a0I am sorry for your pain but know the relief you feel. Had Jeremy not outright asked me for help, I would not have gotten involved. \u00a0Best of luck to you. Andrea\u201d<\/p>\n

HOW DID I ATTRACT THESE ENCOUNTERS WHILE IN SUCH A HAPPY MOOD?<\/p>\n

Because stuff is gonna happen when stuff happens.\u00a0\u00a0The Universe, knowing my greater intention for wanting a happy, fun life with joyful friends in it, is always giving me exactly what I am in vibrational harmony with.<\/em><\/p>\n

Yesterday, being aligned with fun and purpose and hopeful thoughts about future happenings, was the perfect day for Jeremy\u2019s call to come in, yet his anger not cause a blip in my screen. \u00a0The same with his wife\u2019s email. \u00a0It was not emotionally troubling, it was just a quick exchange of info and I was back to my happy life.<\/p>\n

To me, that\u2019s the benefit of having a place of center to return to\u00a0and to know how to get there.\u00a0\u00a0Meditation links here.<\/a>\u00a0 So when different people move through your life at the speed of light, you are able to easily dodge and bob and weave your way without being personally impacted and bruised by it.<\/p>\n

Had I yesterday woken up pissed at the world and responded to everyone from that vibrational stance, there could have been a much different result and a whole lot more karma put into motion. \u00a0At this stage, I haven\u2019t got time for the game. \u00a0I long for something real. Until then, I\u2019m happy loving life in general and no one in particular. \u00a0If we\u2019re really all One, what does that kinda stuff matter anyway?<\/p>\n

Love when those around you love<\/a>
\nWish for others what you wish for yourself<\/p>\n

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