{"id":35613,"date":"2014-02-20T05:21:19","date_gmt":"2014-02-20T10:21:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/?p=35613"},"modified":"2014-02-25T05:40:27","modified_gmt":"2014-02-25T10:40:27","slug":"a-quiz-are-you-walking-on-eggshells-in-your-relationship-your-partner-may-have-borderline-personality-disorder-traits","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/a-quiz-are-you-walking-on-eggshells-in-your-relationship-your-partner-may-have-borderline-personality-disorder-traits\/","title":{"rendered":"A Quiz: Are You Walking on Eggshells in Your Relationship? Your partner may have Borderline Personality Disorder traits"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"attachment_35702\" style=\"width: 226px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><a href=\"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/02\/eggshells-smaller-copy.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-35702\" class=\"size-full wp-image-35702\" alt=\"Eggshells fine as art, fragile as a caring heart\" src=\"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/02\/eggshells-smaller-copy.jpg\" width=\"216\" height=\"162\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-35702\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Eggshells fine as art, fragile as a caring heart<\/p><\/div>\n<p>Are you walking on eggshells a lot in your intimate relationship? If so, you may be bonded to someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder traits.\u00a0 <a href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Borderline_personality_disorder\">Borderline Personality Disorder<\/a> is a disorder whose essential features are a pattern of marked impulsivity and instability, intense fears of abandonment, anger and irritability, engaging in idealization and devaluation of others, alternating between high positive regard and great disappointment. If this rings a bell for you, take the following survey to find out whether that special someone in your life fits these disturbing traits. These questions are not meant as a definitive scientific diagnosis, just a useful guideline.\u00a0\u00a0 <!--more-->Rate each question with a number:<br \/>\nNot a problem=0<br \/>\nSometimes a problem=1<br \/>\nA problem half the time=2<br \/>\nA frequent concern=3<br \/>\nAn ongoing problem of great concern=4.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Do you find yourself hiding negative thoughts or feelings because it\u2019s easier than dealing with your partner\u2019s overreactions\u2014or because talking about problems simply makes them worse?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>After you try to explain yourself to the other person, does s\/he use your own words and contort them to prove his\/her own point? Does your mate blame you for all the problems in his\/her life, and your relationship, and refuse to acknowledge that his\/her own actions cause problems?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Is his\/her temper so unpredictable that you\u2019re constantly on your toes, adrenaline pumping, waiting for the next verbal attack? Is it difficult to enjoy the good times because you\u2019ve learned never to let your guard down?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>When you come home from work each day, do you wonder whether Dr. Jeckel or Mr. Hyde will greet you at the door: the person who basks in your love or the petty tyrant whose energy supply seems to come from intense, violent and irrational rages?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Do you feel manipulated, controlled or even lied to sometimes in an attempt for your partner to get what s\/he wants?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Does your mate seem to demand constant attention? Is everything always about him\/her?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Are you afraid to ask for things in the relationship because you\u2019ll be told you\u2019re selfish and demanding? Does s\/he imply or show by example that your needs are not as important as his\/her needs are?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Do you feel that your partner\u2019s expectations of you are constantly changing so you can never do anything right?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Are you accused of doing things you never did and saying things you never said? Do you feel misunderstood? When you try to explain, do you find that your partner doesn\u2019t believe you?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Do other people remark that your partner is verbally or emotionally abusive? Do they encourage you to leave the relationship?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>If and when you try to leave, does your partner prevent you from departing?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Do you have a hard time planning social engagements, vacations and other activities because the other person\u2019s moodiness, impulsiveness or unpredictability may destroy your plans at the last minute?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Now total your score.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>A score of 20 or more indicates that your partner probably has Borderline Personality Disorder traits.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>A score of 11-20 indicates a relationship with a \u201cborderline\u201d borderline: someone who may have borderline leanings but who can keep them somewhat in check.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>A score of 11 or below probably means that the person in your life does not have Borderline Personality Disorder.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/heartrelationships.com\/quizzes\/are-you-walking-eggshells-your-relationship\/\">Original article here.<\/a> Source: \u201cThe Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook\u201d by Randi Kreger<\/p>\n<p>Also by Randi Kreger: <a href=\"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/?p=35703\">Breaking Up With a Borderline\/Narcissistic Partner is REALLY Hard to Do<\/a><\/p>\n<p>RELATED: <a href=\"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/?p=24843\">They didn\u2019t know their partner had a secret life<\/a><br \/>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/?p=24017%22%3Esociopath\">Profile of the Sociopath and the Narcisscist<br \/>\n<\/a><a href=\"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/?p=31604\">How to spot a sociopath \u2013 10 red flags<br \/>\n<\/a><a href=\"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/?p=32280\">When the new one claims to have crazy exes<\/a><br \/>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/?p=33078\">Beware the narcissistic sociopath disguised as your \u201cSoul Mate\u201d<\/a><\/p>\n<div id=\"s-share-buttons\" class=\"horizontal-w-c-circular s-share-w-c\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.facebook.com\/sharer.php?u=https:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/a-quiz-are-you-walking-on-eggshells-in-your-relationship-your-partner-may-have-borderline-personality-disorder-traits\/\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Share to Facebook\" class=\"s3-facebook hint--top\"><\/a><a href=\"http:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?text=A Quiz: Are You Walking on Eggshells in Your Relationship? 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