{"id":32155,"date":"2013-09-07T18:39:56","date_gmt":"2013-09-07T22:39:56","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/?p=32155"},"modified":"2015-12-20T07:05:32","modified_gmt":"2015-12-20T12:05:32","slug":"how-do-you-trust-the-new-one-how-do-you-not-compare","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/how-do-you-trust-the-new-one-how-do-you-not-compare\/","title":{"rendered":"How do you trust the new one, how do you not compare?"},"content":{"rendered":"

A galpal asks how do you trust the love words of the new one when the “love” words of the last one are still stinging? How do you believe anything they say?<\/em> My answer: \u00a0Don’t compare, period. There are 0nly so many combinations of words. Trust that words said in the moment are true for the moment. \u00a0I was once hurt by someone’s false words and it made me take with a grain of salt the next time I heard loving words. I let my past experience diminish the vastness of my partner’s disclosure in the Now. \u00a0It revealed to me that I was viewing him through a filter of every partner who came before him. \u00a0It was only when I witnessed consistent behavior for months that I began to relax into a place of trust. For me now, what I would do is trust from the first moment and see where it takes you. Communicate what you feel. \u00a0Be yourself. Don’t hold back. \u00a0Attract the same out of him. You will either mesh or you won’t, but there will be no surprises. See each person each day with new eyes, with no comparison. Act and respond as if every word spoken is the truth of the moment. \u00a0It’s the only way you have a chance.<\/p>\n

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