{"id":2834,"date":"2009-05-06T09:09:33","date_gmt":"2009-05-06T14:09:33","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/?p=2834"},"modified":"2009-05-06T09:09:33","modified_gmt":"2009-05-06T14:09:33","slug":"do-you-warn-friends-or-let-them-have-their-own-dream","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/do-you-warn-friends-or-let-them-have-their-own-dream\/","title":{"rendered":"Do you warn friends, or let them have their own dream?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Thursday May 7, 2009.\u00a0 Should I warn friends and family when I see them getting caught up in multi-level marketing schemes, and networking time-and-dollar-wasters<\/em>?\u00a0 Questions like this come up in readings all the time.\u00a0 You have friends who belong to a national franchise named Wealth Something<\/em> or Income Building Something<\/em> and they are always running around to meetings and business workshops where they pay for their own training, in the hopes of beginning their own business, or meeting up with possible investors or partners.\u00a0 They come away with lots of marketing materials and\/or inventory, thousands upon thousands in fees on their credit card, and their heads filled with exaggerated income claims.<\/p>\n

I know people who are involved, and I do readings for many of them.\u00a0 I have friends who belong as well, so I get a lot of unsolicited input on the topic. \u00a0 Some of them have been at it a decade or more.\u00a0 The bottom line?\u00a0 Personally, I have not heard a valid success story yet.\u00a0 No one I know who is involved has built a working business, or expanded their business or expanded their scope of financial supporters from what they’ve learned or whom they’ve met. \u00a0 Many, after they leave years later, feel they just got de-programmed from a cult and are shocked at how many thousands of dollars and hours of valuable time they’ve lost in the process.\u00a0\u00a0 Why didn’t friends and family warn them<\/em>, they usually want to know.<\/p>\n

I believe warning<\/em> is a two edged sword.\u00a0 What you warn<\/em> someone about is what you focus their attention on.\u00a0 I don’t warn visitors to my home that there are snakes in the yard.\u00a0 Why even put their attention there?\u00a0 Why take their full attention from the beauty of the gardens by having them search for a snake where they may not even be one?<\/p>\n

I know that what someone else has experienced in the past does not have to be my experience now or in the future.\u00a0 I know that someone who is just getting into say, IBI\/CEO, does not have to have the same experience as someone I met years ago named Will.\u00a0 Will’s story<\/a> is such a classic example and I found this online that says it well. \u00a0 So do I tell them or not?<\/p>\n

I personally, if they are friends, simply ask periodically how they are progressing.\u00a0 They either tell me the truth, or they give me the pre-programmed rap.\u00a0 In either case, unless they are asking me for advice, I say nothing.\u00a0 I help encourage them in what is already working for them.\u00a0 I cheerlead them on to checking out other opportunities.\u00a0 I help them identify who in their life adds to it and helps bring meaning and why.\u00a0 I do this by asking who around them upgrades their life.\u00a0 Who around them does not.<\/p>\n

Groups like this can be a good stepping stone into getting out among people and learning to promote yourself.\u00a0 It forces you into groups that are made to interact with each other in specific exercises.\u00a0 You learn a lot of things you would not otherwise learn about dealing with each other.<\/p>\n

If they serve to inspire you to what could be, that’s always helpful.\u00a0 If you hear interesting speakers and are around supportive people, that’s always helpful.\u00a0 If you like the whirlwind life of travelling from place to place with the same people in and out of town, and paying for workshops to study theoretical marketing techniques and don’t have to earn an income, it will keep you busy.\u00a0\u00a0 You’re the only one who knows if that’s an upgrade to your life or not.<\/p>\n

So on one hand, people are feeling deceived and scammed and foolish after waking up from years of workshops and hype that got them nowhere.\u00a0 They feel they wandered into the wrong crowd of people and they got caught up in the hype and momentum.\u00a0 However, they simply vibrated into their path and drifted downstream on someone else’s river for awhile.\u00a0 The good news is they are on the other side of it now, so much the wiser.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, some people are still doing the workshop dance, the hardsell hype to their friends, and they find it gives them a social life they didn’t have before. Just having a social life can be really important to help people stay motivated.\u00a0 If people stay motivated, they’ll get inspirations along the way.<\/p>\n

So what do you do?\u00a0 Do you point out they are wasting their time and have been for years, or do you encourage them in their dreams?\u00a0 What do you think is the most helpful?<\/p>\n

Where do you want them to vibrate and how do you help them vibrate there?<\/p>\n

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