{"id":22091,"date":"2012-11-08T11:05:14","date_gmt":"2012-11-08T16:05:14","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/?p=22091"},"modified":"2012-11-08T11:14:35","modified_gmt":"2012-11-08T16:14:35","slug":"i-transform-a-grumpy-thought-to-a-better-feeling-one-in-10-minutes","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/i-transform-a-grumpy-thought-to-a-better-feeling-one-in-10-minutes\/","title":{"rendered":"I transform a grumpy thought to a better feeling one in 10 minutes"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>I have to tell on myself. \u00a0This is an example of \u00a0purposely transforming a grumpy thought into a better feeling one. I wrote earlier about getting ticked a friend would not put things on the calendar<\/a> so I’d know ahead of time I had to drive out. I also wrote about how I ended my aggravation once and for all<\/a>\u00a0by just no longer expecting them to do anything. So this morning I hit the floor running, a 14 hour long, busy day yesterday. \u00a0Four hours into today, I realize it’s almost 10:00am, when we have to leave to take Domino<\/a> to work. \u00a0I wake my friend and say “it’s 5 minutes until 10am, are you up?” and he says, “I am now.” \u00a0Another call comes in, I take it and get lost in work. \u00a0Ten minutes later he’s still not here. \u00a0WTF?<\/p>\n

I remember I didn’t make coffee and think there’s no time, he’ll have to get it at work, \u00a0all the while thinking how irresponsible to not wake up in time for work nor be concerned that he’s going to be late. \u00a0I would rehash the entire laundry list of everything I was ever aggravated about with him, except I release all that stuff every full moon.<\/a> \u00a0But I was ticked enough in the Now with him that any past transgressions were irrelevant. \u00a0Then I call again and he tells me he doesn’t have to \u00a0go to work until 4:45pm. \u00a0As soon as he said it, I remembered he’d mentioned it last week. \u00a0<\/em>Had I not so quickly gone to the incoming phone call and cut him off, he would have told me then. \u00a0But that’s not what I attracted out of him.<\/p>\n

As it turns out, I’d just last night placed something else on the calendar that was a priority. \u00a0I thought he’d see that as an excuse or punishment. \u00a0The reason I had that \u00a0thought was because that was my experience growing up: always being threatened with punishment by a bipolar and passive aggressive father. \u00a0Bless him for that, he made me strong<\/em>. Anyway, I began to add one grumpy thought to another and 3-4 thoughts in, I caught myself and saw what I was doing. \u00a0Focusing on blaming him for once again wasting my time. \u00a0I stopped and laughed at myself. What? Wasting like 10 minutes of my day fretting over it uncessarily, yet freeing up my entire day? \u00a0Blame him for making my weekend unexpectedly start NOW? \u00a0I knew that later time of day he could grab a ride into work with his roomie, so all was well. \u00a0The only part that wasn’t: was the ten minutes I allowed myself to blame and judge and react without thinking. \u00a0My thought is, hey? Only ten minutes? I’ve come a long way, baby.<\/p>\n

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