{"id":2083,"date":"2009-03-01T02:51:01","date_gmt":"2009-03-01T07:51:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/?p=2083"},"modified":"2009-03-01T02:51:01","modified_gmt":"2009-03-01T07:51:01","slug":"what-are-you-attracting-out-of-the-people-around-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/what-are-you-attracting-out-of-the-people-around-you\/","title":{"rendered":"What are you attracting out of the people around you?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Sunday March 1, 2009.\u00a0\u00a0 How do you think <\/strong>about the people around you?\u00a0 How do you talk about <\/strong>family and acquaintances?\u00a0 How do you talk to<\/strong> them? <\/em> These were the questions I was asking myself when I had a couple of days of attracting weirdness from normally stable friends.\u00a0 Anytime I write questions like that, I say “you” but I of course always mean “me”.\u00a0 Because yes, it IS always all about me \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n

I notice that how I think about someone and how I talk about them is always a vibrational match to what I attract out of them.\u00a0 If I’m thinking \u201chere comes that pain in the neck Fifi again, I wonder what horror story she\u2019s going to try to tell me today,<\/em>\u201d well, what do you think I am vibrationally attracting if that is my dominant thought about her?<\/p>\n

Sometimes it helps me to write out my situation in the form of a question as though I was asking someone for guidance about it.\u00a0 Then I email it to myself and answer it a day later.\u00a0 I\u00a0 have learned that what I am giving advice about to everyone else is always a lesson I could use myself.\u00a0 It took me like 30 years to get that and still sometimes I forget.\u00a0 I do that with clients and friends also, although I don’t dare pull it on my brother.\u00a0 But I’m safe there, we don’t give each other unsolicited advice.\u00a0 We’re smart that way.<\/p>\n

A girlfriend last week was emailing about an old situation that keeps coming up for her and preventing her from feeling free to go certain places where certain other people may be.\u00a0 She was fine with these people but felt they would be made uncomfortable by her presence, and asked what I thought.<\/p>\n

I told her \u201cIf you think it makes them uncomfortable to be around you, and if that’s what comes to mind when you think of going there, either don’t go there or stop thinking of it that way. You don\u2019t always have to stop doing what you\u2019re doing.\u00a0 Sometimes you just have to change what you think about what you\u2019re doing. <\/em>Don\u2019t give them that much power over how you feel and where you vibrate.\u00a0 Stop thinking about it like it’s a problem – or ever was – because that just brings the situation to the forefront of everyone’s mind again.\u00a0 If that\u2019s what you\u2019re doing, no wonder resistance is in the air.\u201d<\/p>\n

She was going to call and ask if a certain person would feel better if she didn\u2019t attend a certain exhibition.\u00a0 I told her, \u201cI would not ask her, I would not mention it ever again.\u00a0 I would never refer to it again.\u00a0 I would just go in and out of any public place as I would as if all that never happened.\u00a0 And if you do that, it will fall\u00a0away soon enough and you’ll be done with it.\u00a0 If you keep thinking about it and making any mention of it whatsoever, you’re keeping it active.\u00a0 Just so you know, you have mentioned it to me several times this year so it’s really unresolved within you.\u201d<\/p>\n

She replied: \u201cYes, totally unresolved! You are right. I can just be driving down the street and a thought from that particular past will pop in my head. It’s weird and annoying.\u00a0 I am one of those dwellers, “Why would they think that?\u00a0 Why did I let this happen?\u00a0 Why did I wait so long to see them?\u00a0 Blah-Blah-Blah!” I guess my work this week will be to get rid of that baggage.\u201d<\/p>\n

I answered, \u201cThat’s the Universe saying, hey here’s another chance to work on changing your perception on that topic. How about this:\u00a0 Please give me advice on this scenario:<\/span><\/p>\n

I have friends who have a gallery I used to love going to.\u00a0 We were all friends and everything was hunky dory and suddenly now, for whatever reason, I feel like they don’t want me there and they all shut up and stop having fun when I come in.\u00a0 They clearly don’t want to include me. My feelings are hurt and when I speak to one or more of them, they tell me everything is fine but I know it’s really not.\u00a0 They have exhibitions at the gallery I’d like to attend but don’t feel welcome. Help please, what would you do?<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

She laughed at that because I was just reminding her of what she already knows.<\/p>\n

When I do new projects, I like working with the end in sight.\u00a0 That keeps me focused on my goal.\u00a0 It helps me plan and do In The Now <\/em>what will make for the most desired outcome and future consequences. If the end in sight is a happy relationship with associates and loved ones, then it helps me to keep that end in sight.\u00a0 Doing so gives me the freedom to be more allowing and cooperative in the now, because I see the bigger picture.\u00a0 Keeping the end in sight helps me make more informed decisions and choose my battles more wisely.<\/p>\n

And it’s not hard to do.\u00a0 It usually just means remembering what you love about this person and then remembering who they really are so you can attract that out of them again.\u00a0 Because that\u2019s all both of you want anyway.<\/p>\n

We have far to go and much good work to do together if we would stop letting personality conflicts take up so much of our time and attention.\u00a0 I’ve done my share of it.\u00a0 That’s why I don’t make time for it now.<\/p>\n

\"\"<\/a>See, I know I am a butterfly and I know the slightest movement of my wing will set in motions worlds upon worlds of consequences.\u00a0 So I’m careful when and where I flutter.\u00a0 And while I may fly close to the flame, I know not to fly into it.<\/p>\n

Not just yet.\u00a0 I’ll let you know when that calling comes \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n

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