{"id":9875,"date":"2010-07-27T04:51:55","date_gmt":"2010-07-27T09:51:55","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/?p=9875"},"modified":"2010-07-27T04:51:55","modified_gmt":"2010-07-27T09:51:55","slug":"flirters-a-heads-up-not-everyone-likes-to-be-called-cute","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/flirters-a-heads-up-not-everyone-likes-to-be-called-cute\/","title":{"rendered":"Flirters: A heads up, not everyone likes to be called Cute"},"content":{"rendered":"
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I have a male friend whose looks are a cross between James Woods<\/a> and Tommy Lee Jones<\/a>.\u00a0 Rugged, weathered. He intensely dislikes being called adorable or cute.\u00a0 To him, those words are reserved for something that looks very young or beautiful.\u00a0 To me, those words also describe personality characteristics and behaviors.\u00a0 So when he acts particularly adorable, I have to be on guard not to tell him so.\u00a0 He doesn’t take it with the meaning I said it.\u00a0 I also have girlfriends who are beautiful looking, who intensely dislike being called cute.\u00a0 Their complaints: “Cockerspaniels are CUTE. I HATE being referred to as CUTE.” and “Cute isn’t pretty. Cute isn’t attractive. Cute sure as hell ain’t beautiful. Cute is how you describe a baby’s butt.”\u00a0 I laugh because I figure, whatever the words, it’s meant as a compliment, but I see their point.\u00a0 So, everyone – me included – if you ever again want to call someone cute – go into detail about what that means to you.\u00a0 If she’s attractive, tell her so.\u00a0 Even if she’s beautiful, yep, gotta tell her so (they get insecure, too).\u00a0 If he gets a childlike smile that warms your heart or other points south, tell him that’s what you mean by he’s “cute”.\u00a0 Like everything else in life, what you mean to say is not always what the listener hears.<\/p>\n

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