{"id":42740,"date":"2015-01-01T16:12:12","date_gmt":"2015-01-01T21:12:12","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/?p=42740"},"modified":"2025-03-06T08:10:15","modified_gmt":"2025-03-06T13:10:15","slug":"andreas-january-2015-editorial","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/andreas-january-2015-editorial\/","title":{"rendered":"Andrea’s January 2015 Editorial"},"content":{"rendered":"
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January 2015 magazine<\/p><\/div>\n

Hello and welcome to the January 2015 edition of Horizons Magazine.\u00a0 We\u2019re loving the cooler weather in Florida! 50 degree nights are perfect for sitting out at the firepit. I love having woods on three sides of me. I can feel completely isolated away from civilization yet the neighborhood is right on the other side of a few lots of oaks and pines. It becomes enchanted here at nightfall, so I enjoy the outdoors when the air turns cool. I began cutting the trails through the woods last month and spent time watching the woodland creatures that I share the property with. Their nightly parade up and down the trails is a never ending source of entertainment and contemplation.\u00a0\u00a0 Being such a workaholic, it\u2019s crucial that I have the wooded compound here to reboot myself in. All I have to do after a long day is take a walk around the property, check out the new growth on all the plants, maybe pick up tree branch deadfall as kindling for the nightly fire, see what creatures have been walking the trails. I live in a magical, enchanted wonderland for sure, and I love that I know it. Too often, as William Blake<\/strong> said, \u201cParadise does not make itself known to us until we\u2019ve been kicked out of it.\u201d Thank you, Universe, for the eyes to see what I have right in front of me while I have it.\u00a0\u00a0 <\/p>\n

I have a habit of feeling guilty when I choose to spend time alone rather than with a friend. It\u2019s not just that I have a lot of things around here waiting to be done, it\u2019s also that I enjoy my own company and look forward to time alone to garden, to paint, to do home projects and repairs. I like doing things alone because only when my attention is focused within can I access the inner voice of my internal guidance system. If someone or some sound is present, my attention goes to them rather than within. In the silence is when I get to spend quality time, pleasurable time, with Spirit and inner guidance. And it\u2019s not just an empty mind space, although there are times it is that as well. I found that once you tap into inner guidance, if you\u2019ve got an inquisitive nature you can enter into constant conversation with the voice in the head, asking questions, discussing answers, working out issues past and present.<\/p>\n

Like Googling every query, seeing the answer, asking the deeper question, seeing the answer, asking the even deeper question. That\u2019s often what is going on within me when you see me watering the garden or mowing the lawn, painting or cleaning out my garage. Learn to get in touch with the silence within yourself and come to understand the deeper meaning of everything around you, everything you only half see and think of as mundane, ordinary and frankly rather boring. When we get bored, we\u2019re merely missing the deeper message. I used to pride myself on all the things I got easily bored with, thinking well, I\u2019ve been there, done that, let\u2019s quickly get on with the next round of stimuli. Then as I began to truly awaken, I realized that although I\u2019d had many experiences, I\u2019d not yet begun to drink deeply of Life. I\u2019d gotten bored with things because I\u2019d only skimmed their surface and, in my self-absorption, I\u2019d not reflected deeply on anything. There was a whole world waiting for me to discover it, as soon as I got over myself. That, too has become a lifelong process.<\/p>\n

Speaking of deeper meanings, a couple of weeks ago, my WordPress blog got hacked.\u00a0 It was time for a reboot there anyway. It happens.\u00a0 I contacted my server to restore it and was told the backup file was also hacked.\u00a0 I had no backup of my own.\u00a0 As it turns out, I didn\u2019t need one.\u00a0 I had my magic wizard of a brother to the rescue!\u00a0 I wasn\u2019t worried about losing the info because I had the entire blog in a Word file.\u00a0 I could pay someone to re-enter the data if I had to.\u00a0 I\u2019d lose my place in the search engines for awhile, but that was ok, too. I don\u2019t depend on my website for income. I did have complex cross-linking of my meditation and creative visualization posts, so I\u2019d have to relink them all, which would take some time.\u00a0 But I didn\u2019t feel like I\u2019d need to. I didn\u2019t feel like the entries were gone.\u00a0 I just figured it was some little glitch that would be fixed soon enough and all would be fine.\u00a0 I like living in the mystery.\u00a0 In the mystery is where the magic happens.<\/p>\n

Some computer techie friends told me the site was gone. But Brothermine seemed to think he could get the pages back on and that was enough for me.\u00a0 For years a mechanical engineer for Honeywell Aerospace,<\/strong> Jerry is really good at sussing out problems and fixing them. He warned me he might not be successful, that he\u2019d have to re-familiarize himself with the software. History tells me he\u2019s good at that and that he under-states his skills and knowledge. I asked a few times how it was going and he told me all the techie things he was doing. It was complex and over my head, but I wasn\u2019t concerned. I felt he had it under control.<\/p>\n

Other techie friends said don\u2019t count on it. I understood their concern based on their own past experience. But my past experience is that things always work out for me. My past experience is that my brother has always been able to magically fix anything I goof up on the websites. My experience is that I don\u2019t need to know the details of how something is going to work out.\u00a0 I just need to have faith that it will. And it somehow always miraculously does. He had the blog online in a couple of weeks.<\/p>\n

A few years ago, that would have freaked me out. Change used to freak me out. I’d choose to stay stuck somewhere familiar rather than change anything. Then I realized that any time change had been forced upon me, it was always for the better. It always ended up being an upgrade.<\/p>\n

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Sometimes we’re pleasantly surprised.\u00a0 My friend Domino lamented there\u2019s no passion in her relationship.\u00a0 She loves her husband of five years, but they don\u2019t share the same interests and seem to be roommates more than anything.\u00a0 They don\u2019t fight and, while they do laugh together, each does their own thing, has their own job and keeps to themselves after work, he in his workshop and she in the den.\u00a0 Neither is particularly interested in what the other is involved with.\u00a0 There is no physical or emotional intimacy, they don\u2019t even share meals.\u00a0 She doesn\u2019t want a divorce and she doesn\u2019t want to date or seek a new man, but she misses having an intense interest in \u2014 anything.\u00a0 Oh, she has her hobbies, she crafts and paints, but she hasn\u2019t even felt like creating art the past year.\u00a0 She feels if he showed an interest in her work, she\u2019d be more encouraged and feel he was a part of it.\u00a0 But she shows little interest in his work and when she does, he\u2019s not into discussing it.\u00a0 She doesn\u2019t feel she has any friends.\u00a0 She\u2019s not a computer person, so she doesn\u2019t do Facebook or belong to any forums that might help her feel supported.<\/p>\n

They already live separate lives, interacting only occasionally. I see no need for her to leave the home unless the fact of living with him brings her down.\u00a0 She can choose to look at it in another way. He does pay most of the bills and they are comfortable with each other.\u00a0 But staying where you don\u2019t want to be does a disservice to everyone.\u00a0 Be where you are happy.\u00a0 If that means displacing a partner, so be it.\u00a0 Have the talk as soon as possible and free them up to find someone they deserve to be happy with.<\/p>\n

One problem in a relationship is when one person wants it to be defined and the other doesn\u2019t want to fit into a job description.\u00a0 I completely understand that. I\u2019m not one for commitment because I know intentions change.\u00a0 Relationships, having to answer to anyone, used to be an effort to me. My intention now is to be happy in every moment, so I\u2019ve learned to make decisions with that goal in mind.\u00a0 My mind is subject to change upon evolution of consciousness.\u00a0 This doesn\u2019t mean I don\u2019t figure my partner into any equation, it means I keep him posted if and when intentions change.\u00a0 That way, even if we\u2019re not on the same page, we each know what is in the other\u2019s mind. I\u2019m lucky in that my partner and I share many interests, while each doing what we want to do.\u00a0 Our lives mesh well, without compromise or sacrifice. Not everyone is that lucky.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s clear that what Domino needs to do is discover and choose a pleasing and compelling point of focus.\u00a0 When she does that, all else will fall into place.\u00a0 She\u2019ll be focused on exactly what she wants to do, without having to figure anyone else into the equation.\u00a0 If her husband, or anyone, wants to be involved in what she\u2019s doing, she can make new decisions at any time.\u00a0 She can choose to seek what it is that creates that feeling of passion within her.\u00a0 She can choose to make it a new goal, a quest if you will, a mission to find what pleases her and what stirs her heart to passion.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t know where you\u2019ll be happy? Find it, seek it, discover and choose a pleasing and compelling point of focus.\u00a0 Find your path and you will bring meaning to your life.\u00a0 In fact, even following the \u201cwrong\u201d path will bring meaning to your life.
\nAnd it\u2019s a meaningful life, it just takes practice.<\/p>\n

Accept all things. It\u2019s the only way to wake up\u2026anything else perpetuates the dream.<\/p>\n

Enjoy our offering this month.<\/p>\n

Hari Om.<\/p>\n

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