{"id":42454,"date":"2015-08-13T15:37:00","date_gmt":"2015-08-13T20:37:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/?p=42454"},"modified":"2022-09-22T06:15:23","modified_gmt":"2022-09-22T11:15:23","slug":"a-fb-friend-picks-me-to-bully-and-try-to-start-a-pointless-fight","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/a-fb-friend-picks-me-to-bully-and-try-to-start-a-pointless-fight\/","title":{"rendered":"A FB friend picks me to bully and try to start a pointless fight"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/08\/signs_of_mental_illness.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright size-full wp-image-42455\" src=\"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/08\/signs_of_mental_illness.jpg\" alt=\"signs_of_mental_illness\" width=\"360\" height=\"270\" srcset=\"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/08\/signs_of_mental_illness.jpg 360w, http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/08\/signs_of_mental_illness-300x225.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 360px) 100vw, 360px\" \/><\/a><span style=\"color: #000000;\">A Facebook friend posts about all the stupid and fake people in her world who create drama and start pointless fights for attention. I joked\u00a0 &#8220;<strong><em>they\u2019ve got you good if they&#8217;ve got you talking about them<\/em>.<\/strong>&#8221; She then began name calling me and saying I &#8220;consistently&#8221; belittle her.\u00a0<strong> I have never met this woman.<\/strong>\u00a0 I\u2019ve made maybe 5 comments thru the years on her posts, none negative. I was the only one who donated to her online request for $$ years ago. When people are stuck in their own head, don\u2019t try to make it make sense. It has nothing to do with you. You are triggering something in them and they don\u2019t know what else to do with how <a style=\"color: #000000;\" href=\"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/08\/unfriend.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-thumbnail wp-image-42456\" src=\"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/08\/unfriend-150x150.jpg\" alt=\"unfriend\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" \/><\/a>they feel.<\/span> <strong><span style=\"color: #993300;\"><em>They\u2019ll say you said and did stuff you did not so they can play- act the other side of the conversation for their audience. Don\u2019t get irked when that happens<\/em>. <\/span><\/strong><span style=\"color: #000000;\">I consider it an honor when someone publicly uses me as the scapegoat to work out their own reflection. That tells me I\u2019m in their life for soul growth. Knowing that, I consider it an honor and deeply bow. I bless them and take my focus off it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>NOTE: If you find yourself doing this<\/strong>, you might ask yourself<em> why do I feel compelled to attack this person?\u00a0 Why do I feel compelled to exaggerate and lie about any person or situation, ever?\u00a0 What am I hoping to elicit from my audience? What benefit do I receive by doing it? What in me is so broken that I need to act like this? What do I expect to come back to me if I treat people like this?\u00a0 <\/em>Life begins once you stop the drama and drop all pretense.<\/span><\/p>\n<div id=\"s-share-buttons\" class=\"horizontal-w-c-circular s-share-w-c\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.facebook.com\/sharer.php?u=http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/a-fb-friend-picks-me-to-bully-and-try-to-start-a-pointless-fight\/\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Share to Facebook\" class=\"s3-facebook hint--top\"><\/a><a href=\"http:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?text=A FB friend picks me to bully and try to start a pointless fight&url=http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/a-fb-friend-picks-me-to-bully-and-try-to-start-a-pointless-fight\/\" target=\"_blank\"  title=\"Share to Twitter\" class=\"s3-twitter hint--top\"><\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/plus.google.com\/share?url=http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/a-fb-friend-picks-me-to-bully-and-try-to-start-a-pointless-fight\/\" target=\"_blank\"  title=\"Share to Google Plus\" class=\"s3-google-plus hint--top\"><\/a><a href=\"http:\/\/www.linkedin.com\/shareArticle?mini=true&url=http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/a-fb-friend-picks-me-to-bully-and-try-to-start-a-pointless-fight\/\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Share to LinkedIn\" class=\"s3-linkedin hint--top\"><\/a><div class=\"pinit-btn-div\"><a href=\"\/\/www.pinterest.com\/pin\/create\/button\/\" data-pin-do=\"buttonBookmark\"  data-pin-color=\"red\" title=\"Share to Pinterest\" class=\"s3-pinterest hint--top\"><\/a><\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<script type=\"text\/javascript\" async defer src=\"\/\/assets.pinterest.com\/js\/pinit.js\"><\/script><a href=\"mailto:?Subject=A%20FB%20friend%20picks%20me%20to%20bully%20and%20try%20to%20start%20a%20pointless%20fight&Body=Here%20is%20the%20link%20to%20the%20article:%20http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/a-fb-friend-picks-me-to-bully-and-try-to-start-a-pointless-fight\/\" title=\"Email this article\" class=\"s3-email hint--top\"><\/a><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A Facebook friend posts about all the stupid and fake people in her world who create drama and start pointless fights for attention. I joked\u00a0 &#8220;they\u2019ve got you good if they&#8217;ve got you talking about them.&#8221; She then began name calling me and saying I &#8220;consistently&#8221; belittle her.\u00a0 I have never met this woman.\u00a0 I\u2019ve [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-42454","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/42454","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=42454"}],"version-history":[{"count":12,"href":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/42454\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":49249,"href":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/42454\/revisions\/49249"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=42454"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=42454"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=42454"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}