{"id":3820,"date":"2009-07-24T00:55:12","date_gmt":"2009-07-24T05:55:12","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/?p=3820"},"modified":"2015-07-14T18:13:26","modified_gmt":"2015-07-14T23:13:26","slug":"a-fly-on-the-wall-of-a-dating-site-hook-up","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/a-fly-on-the-wall-of-a-dating-site-hook-up\/","title":{"rendered":"A Fly On The Wall Of A Dating Site Hook-Up with a Scammer"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"candy<\/a>Ah, online dating.\u00a0 The drama continues! I wrote earlier at Online dating scams; hot singles are waiting for you <\/a>that several friends are dating online and report to me all their adventures.\u00a0 A lot of the women get the same emails and instant messages from the same men, like a mass form letter I guess, hoping for a 1% return or something.\u00a0 They also get a lot of the same “canned” information during instant messages, which simply shows that the guy is copying and pasting from another message.\u00a0 My friend Sofie shared a typical instant message from her SeniorPeopleMeet site<\/a>.\u00a0 She is a cute gal and also a no-nonsense person, also a Buddhist.\u00a0 She flat out doesn’t talk to guys who have no profile and no picture.\u00a0 She gets a dozen instant messages every time she signs on to the site, guys she has nothing in common with and who just see that she’s cute and online.\u00a0 Here is this morning’s conversation:<\/p>\n

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MrCurved2000:\u00a0 hi<\/p>\n

sweetdynamo:\u00a0 hello<\/p>\n

MrCurved2000:\u00a0 How are you Sofie?<\/p>\n

sweetdynamo:\u00a0 why do you have zero profile?
\nsweetdynamo:\u00a0 just so you know, no profile, no pic makes you seem like a scammer<\/p>\n

MrCurved2000:\u00a0 My name is Owen and I am a 60 year man who seeks his ideal mate.<\/p>\n

sweetdynamo:\u00a0 and why no profile? sorry to bust your chops, I get 10 guys a day doing this to me and 80% are scammers<\/p>\n

MrCurved2000:\u00a0 Well honey if you truly feel this man is a scammer then ask Seniors why for the past 3 months they make sure they take their money out of my bank account. Same here with my profile<\/p>\n

sweetdynamo:\u00a0 and again I ask why no profile?<\/p>\n

MrCurved2000:\u00a0 I am not a scammer and don’t appreciate being called one or put in the same category with them. I am a hopeless romantic chivalrous gentleman with some class.<\/p>\n

sweetdynamo:\u00a0 and why is that not on your profile? with all due respect?<\/p>\n

MrCurved2000:\u00a0 And again I said you go and ask seniors because I posted everything when I joined this site over 3 months ago. But it seems you have already prejudged this man without even giving me the benefit of the doubt and as a Christian that is not nice at all and I certainly don’t appreciate it. I would never do that to you and don’t expect anyone to do it to me.Sorry you feel you know all about me without asking me even the correct questions.<\/p>\n

sweetdynamo:\u00a0 oh so you are telling me that you created a profile at the site that does not appear? ok so let’s start over ok?\u00a0 HEY OWEN this is Sofie, you’ve seen my profile, let me know if we share any mutual interests<\/p>\n

MrCurved2000:\u00a0 I can’t control your thoughts and I will pray for you.<\/p>\n

sweetdynamo:\u00a0 I have been praying for you since your first IM weeks ago with all due respect. thanks
\nsweetdynamo:\u00a0 Ok, I meant that no personal writing of yours was there, my mistake
\nsweetdynamo:\u00a0 why is it the bullies and scammers all pull the Christian card?<\/p>\n

MrCurved2000:\u00a0 Hi Sofie and yes we share mutual interests. Would you like me to tell you what women tell me I am and what I adore doing?<\/p>\n

sweetdynamo:\u00a0 no, I want you to only tell me if we have anything in common, but you haven’t read my profile likely<\/p>\n

MrCurved2000:\u00a0 I will be more than happy to answer any questions you may have and I don’t lie or deceive.<\/p>\n

sweetdynamo:\u00a0 so I will wait for you to tell me what mutual interests we share<\/p>\n

MrCurved2000:\u00a0 I don’t have to read your profile because it doesn’t interest me in the slightest. I go by what you have in your heart and my heart tells me you are the most honest, sincere, intelligent, Christian woman on this site. This is good enough for me and God also agrees with my decision.<\/p>\n

sweetdynamo:\u00a0 Good luck to you.\u00a0 Please do not contact me again.\u00a0 God will tell you why.<\/p>\n

MrCurved2000:\u00a0 As a man I’m: sincere, honest to a fault, loyal, caring, open-minded, creative, intelligent, affectionate, passionate, compassionate, a hopeless romantic, chivalrous gentleman, and enjoy hours of daily conversation.<\/p>\n

sweetdynamo:\u00a0 I suggest you add that to your profile<\/p>\n

MrCurved2000:\u00a0 I enjoy walking along the beach, walking hand in hand, watching the sun rise & set, sitting in front of a fireplace, cuddling, snuggling, hugging, and hours of conversation.<\/p>\n

sweetdynamo:\u00a0 and add that to your profile as well<\/p>\n

MrCurved2000:\u00a0 Now you can tell me if we share any interests.<\/p>\n

sweetdynamo:\u00a0 not yet.\u00a0 good luck to you
\n(I closed the window – 2 minutes later he was back)<\/p>\n

MrCurved2000:\u00a0 Sofie please bear with me as I can’t remember my password and don’t know where I put it. I sent office an email and will take about a day before they sent it to me.
\nMrCurved2000:\u00a0 So sorry about that, but I will get it corrected just for you because you were the nicest in asking me to do so.<\/p>\n

sweetdynamo:\u00a0 ?? I was not nice at all Owen
\nsweetdynamo:\u00a0 see? even now you are acting like the scammers do in their set ups
\nsweetdynamo:\u00a0 with all due respect<\/p>\n

MrCurved2000:\u00a0 Compared to the demanding others you were so very sweet<\/p>\n

sweetdynamo:\u00a0 what city were you born in?<\/p>\n

MrCurved2000:\u00a0 I was born in East Stroudsburg, PA December 3, 1948 at 4:00 in the morning.\u00a0 At the Rosenkranbs hospital, which is now an apartment complex.<\/p>\n

sweetdynamo:\u00a0 may I ask what you were doing between 10am and 2pm today?
\nsweetdynamo:\u00a0 pardon me, Owen, these are test questions to see if you respond or just copy and paste text that is not related as you’ve done to me up to now<\/p>\n

MrCurved2000:\u00a0 I was sitting here on my computer playing online solitare my favorite game and not doing so well.<\/p>\n

sweetdynamo:\u00a0 what do you see when you look out your window?
\nsweetdynamo:\u00a0 what does your profile screen name mean?<\/p>\n

MrCurved2000:\u00a0 Trust me on this one you truly don’t want to know because it has sexual overtones about my body.\u00a0 Just let that one go honey.<\/p>\n

sweetdynamo:\u00a0 why do the so-called Christians all have the sexual overtones?
\nsweetdynamo:\u00a0 Don’t you know normal women see that as crude and vulgar?
\nsweetdynamo:\u00a0 Owen, let’s just call it a day and not talk again, ok?
\nsweetdynamo:\u00a0 no hard feelings – don’t go away mad, just go away ok?
\nsweetdynamo:\u00a0 and with all due respect my good friend publishes a magazine and a blog and I am going to give her permission to reprint this conversation in it as a caveat to other women who comes across the likes of you.<\/p>\n

MrCurved2000:\u00a0 As with most women on this site you are truly superficial, bland, and for a so called Christian a totall out right bitch.<\/p>\n

sweetdynamo:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 never said I was a christian Owen
\nsweetdynamo:\u00a0 and all you do is look at location and photo – how superficial is that??<\/p>\n

MrCurved2000:\u00a0 Go buzz off with your crap about being high and mighty as your kind go no where but down to hell.\u00a0 bye and hope you soon see the light.<\/p>\n

sweetdynamo:\u00a0 oops, Hell doesn’t exist Owen, good news for you
\n### end of IM<\/span><\/p>\n

Lots of the IMs she receives get all pornie and for some reason, the men that stress they are christians and born again all seem to be the worst offenders.\u00a0 But most of them are just stupid time wasters like this guy.\u00a0 And kind of like this blog post…<\/p>\n

But the moral of the story is: on these sites, do not take people at face value.\u00a0 Hope for the best but be prepared to handle the clowns.\u00a0 Know that it is a possibility that someone who sounds really good and looks really good is a scammer and who knows who is behind the keyboard and what their agenda is.<\/p>\n

And most of all, remember that who you are attracting each time is evidence of your vibrational frequency.\u00a0 You attracted them to you.\u00a0 Don’t let the time wasters get to you.\u00a0 Just quickly move on and keep your focus on what kind of partner you really like and look for evidence of that.\u00a0\u00a0 Doing that will keep you in the mode to attract an upgrade.\u00a0 Focus on the fools and you’ll attract more of them.\u00a0 Like Sofie.<\/p>\n

And, of course, if you just like to hook up with random dudes you’ll never see again, there’s a whole playground out there.\u00a0 Me? I’ll kinda wait for the One who lets his entire lens be filled with me, the One who worships the ground I walk on and treasures me like the goddess I am.\u00a0\u00a0 But, hey, that’s just me.<\/p>\n

And, yeah, no wonder I’m single, right?<\/p>\n

Online dating: E-Harmony vs. Match.com — Beware the Scammers<\/a>
\nOnline dating scams; hot singles are waiting for you<\/a>
\nRELATED:\u00a0 I found my old Match.com profile!<\/a><\/p>\n

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