{"id":37188,"date":"2014-06-08T06:46:08","date_gmt":"2014-06-08T10:46:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/?p=37188"},"modified":"2014-06-08T23:32:41","modified_gmt":"2014-06-09T03:32:41","slug":"create-more-space-for-intimacy-dont-bring-unresolved-baggage-into-a-new-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/create-more-space-for-intimacy-dont-bring-unresolved-baggage-into-a-new-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"Create more space for intimacy &#8211; don&#8217;t bring unresolved baggage into a new relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"attachment_34545\" style=\"width: 154px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><a href=\"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/12\/Jeff-Brown-2013.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-34545\" class=\"size-full wp-image-34545\" src=\"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/12\/Jeff-Brown-2013.jpg\" alt=\"Jeff Brown soulshaping.com\" width=\"144\" height=\"119\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-34545\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Jeff Brown<br \/>soulshaping.com<\/p><\/div>\n<p>When I would go to bed with a woman when I was young, I didn&#8217;t realize that there were many of us in the bed at the same time. There was her and I, her parents, my parents, our past lovers and anyone else we had unfinished business with. That&#8217;s the thing about being unconscious &#8211; we can&#8217;t help but bring our unresolved baggage into every other relational encounter. We imagine it&#8217;s just the two of us, but our projections and patterns ensure that the bed is symbolically filled with many others.Talk about an unwelcome orgy! A little hard to move around freely with so many projections on the mattress. One of the reasons we do the work to heal our past is so that we can actually create more space for intimacy. With our patterns fallen away, we stand a much better chance of holding love safe. With our projections worked through, we can actually see the beloved with clear eyes. Finally, its just the two of us&#8230; \u00a0<span style=\"color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', 'Bitstream Charter', Times, serif;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/soulshaping.com\">Jeff Brown<\/a><br \/>\n<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Related: \u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.katybutler.com\/publications\/psychnetorg\/index_files\/psychthernet_satoribedroom.htm\">Satori in the Bedroom<\/a><\/p>\n<div id=\"s-share-buttons\" class=\"horizontal-w-c-circular s-share-w-c\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.facebook.com\/sharer.php?u=http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/create-more-space-for-intimacy-dont-bring-unresolved-baggage-into-a-new-relationship\/\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Share to Facebook\" class=\"s3-facebook hint--top\"><\/a><a href=\"http:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?text=Create more space for intimacy &#8211; don&#8217;t bring unresolved baggage into a new relationship&url=http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/create-more-space-for-intimacy-dont-bring-unresolved-baggage-into-a-new-relationship\/\" target=\"_blank\"  title=\"Share to Twitter\" class=\"s3-twitter hint--top\"><\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/plus.google.com\/share?url=http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/create-more-space-for-intimacy-dont-bring-unresolved-baggage-into-a-new-relationship\/\" target=\"_blank\"  title=\"Share to Google Plus\" class=\"s3-google-plus hint--top\"><\/a><a href=\"http:\/\/www.linkedin.com\/shareArticle?mini=true&url=http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/create-more-space-for-intimacy-dont-bring-unresolved-baggage-into-a-new-relationship\/\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Share to LinkedIn\" class=\"s3-linkedin hint--top\"><\/a><div class=\"pinit-btn-div\"><a href=\"\/\/www.pinterest.com\/pin\/create\/button\/\" data-pin-do=\"buttonBookmark\"  data-pin-color=\"red\" title=\"Share to Pinterest\" class=\"s3-pinterest hint--top\"><\/a><\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<script type=\"text\/javascript\" async defer src=\"\/\/assets.pinterest.com\/js\/pinit.js\"><\/script><a href=\"mailto:?Subject=Create%20more%20space%20for%20intimacy%20&#8211;%20don&#8217;t%20bring%20unresolved%20baggage%20into%20a%20new%20relationship&Body=Here%20is%20the%20link%20to%20the%20article:%20http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/create-more-space-for-intimacy-dont-bring-unresolved-baggage-into-a-new-relationship\/\" title=\"Email this article\" class=\"s3-email hint--top\"><\/a><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When I would go to bed with a woman when I was young, I didn&#8217;t realize that there were many of us in the bed at the same time. There was her and I, her parents, my parents, our past lovers and anyone else we had unfinished business with. That&#8217;s the thing about being unconscious [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-37188","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/37188","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=37188"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/37188\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":37191,"href":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/37188\/revisions\/37191"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=37188"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=37188"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=37188"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}