{"id":3708,"date":"2009-07-16T00:33:06","date_gmt":"2009-07-16T05:33:06","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/?p=3708"},"modified":"2009-07-16T00:33:06","modified_gmt":"2009-07-16T05:33:06","slug":"vibrational-matching-maintaining-your-connection","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/vibrational-matching-maintaining-your-connection\/","title":{"rendered":"Vibrational Matching; Maintaining Your Connection"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>I don’t feel very organized today so I won’t try to be coherent or motivating.\u00a0 I’ll just talk.\u00a0 I’ve let myself get behind this week in final layout for the August Horizons Magazine<\/a>.\u00a0\u00a0 I get behind by goofing off when I should be working.\u00a0 But I know that goofing off is essential to me being able to work efficiently, so I can’t really beat myself up for goofing off.\u00a0 It’s part of the process and I’ve learned to factor it in.\u00a0 Like when I am flustered after taking 23 phone calls in a row and then decide to chat with a friend on the phone about nothing for an hour.\u00a0 Oh, that’s what I can talk about.\u00a0 Well, actually it’s a story example of vibrational matching.<\/p>\n

I spend so much time on the phone for work, all day, half the night, that friends know not to call me to just chat.\u00a0 But sometimes I want do it.\u00a0 Like now, my brother just had hip replacement surgery<\/a> and, although we mostly email back and forth several times a day, we’ve been doing the phone each day while he’s recuping.\u00a0 In fact, he and I sometimes send so many emails back and forth that we are using it like an instant message system.\u00a0 That quickly adds up to hundreds of emails each week sometimes.\u00a0 But it’s easier to do that when we’re both working in other programs on other screens.\u00a0 Plus Brothermine sends me lots of screen shots and step by step instructions to do technical stuff, so a phone call wouldn’t do.<\/p>\n

My friend Star and I also use email as instant messages for the same reason.\u00a0 But sometimes, despite our best efforts, we just can’t seem to keep the connection long enough to finish a phone call this week.\u00a0 It was easy to explain it as a broken phone and waiting for the replacement to arrive, or the minutes on the prepaid card running out hours ahead of time.\u00a0 But it kept happening over and over, and I finally got it that I needed to stay focused on work and not goof off this week, no matter how fun and engaging and outrageous she can be.<\/p>\n

Star is one of those fun people who let everything be an adventure and knows that somehow she’ll always be taken care of, although she seldom knows from day to day how that will happen. I look forward to her calls. \u00a0 She’s had some tough breaks and is finally free of an abusive partner and was lucky to escape with her sanity and her life.\u00a0 She doesn’t care that she’s got little else and, at the age of 60, she has to be starting all over again, literally with nothing.<\/p>\n

She knows that somehow a way will be made… even where she sees no way.\u00a0 She keeps her eyes out for opportunities.\u00a0 This week she bought a truckload of watermelons for $2.50 a piece and has been selling them roadside in North Carolina for $5.\u00a0 She’s a smart cookie.\u00a0 It took her awhile to wake up and wise up but she’s on a roll now.\u00a0 It tickled me pink to learn this is what she is doing for work right now.\u00a0 Of course she’s looking for something else she is qualified for, but she just moved and is getting settled into the new routine and that will all come with time.<\/p>\n

So I am not surprised when our phone connection begins to suddenly and repeatedly break every time she gets on the topic of her past troubles.\u00a0 She knows and I know that talking about that only serves to make her vibrate in that place again.\u00a0 And that doesn’t feel good to either of us.\u00a0 But she’s used to telling the story once she gets started, and it’s hard not to tell it.\u00a0 It was part of who she was for so long. And since I just won’t go there emotionally when she does, that’s when I lose her. Literally.\u00a0 Her phone cuts off.\u00a0 We lose the connection.<\/p>\n

As soon as we realized what was happening, we had a laugh about it.\u00a0 I asked her once if she thought we had a hand in attracting the reality we experience and she emailed back “Yes, my messy fingerprints are all over everything.”\u00a0 I loved that.<\/p>\n

So was the Universe telling us that Andrea needed to work and Star needed to stop strolling down memory lane?\u00a0 Was that why we got disconnected?<\/p>\n

Or that simply because we were in two different mind states at the time, that we were out of vibrational harmony with each other, thus the connection wouldn’t hold?\u00a0 Which was it?<\/p>\n

Or was it just a broken phone and running out of minutes and that’s all, nothing else?<\/p>\n

Is it ever really just that?<\/p>\n

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