{"id":2717,"date":"2013-09-23T02:10:57","date_gmt":"2013-09-23T06:10:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/?p=2717"},"modified":"2013-09-24T17:54:04","modified_gmt":"2013-09-24T21:54:04","slug":"unsolicited-advice-who-is-my-audience-who-is-my-multitude","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/unsolicited-advice-who-is-my-audience-who-is-my-multitude\/","title":{"rendered":"Unsolicited advice; who is my target audience? It’s a meaningful life, it just takes practice"},"content":{"rendered":"

<\/em>Recently I went to my favorite restaurant for lunch. The owner complained nonstop to me about how bad the economy is.\u00a0 He typically does that and we’ve had “the talk” (about how we attract what we focus on) but often he’s busy so he doesn’t have time to talk to me.\u00a0 He asked why he hadn’t seen me in a more than a month.\u00a0 I told him the truth, I’ve been busy and I’ve been cooking.\u00a0 The only reason I was taking a break from going there in the first place is that I don’t eat where people are complaining.\u00a0 So yesterday, when he began to settle in for a long talk, I asked for my order to go.\u00a0 I knew that I was going to discard it once I got home.\u00a0 He prepared it in his unconnected mindset, so I wasn’t going to ingest it.\u00a0 I tipped him $7 on a $13 check and politely split.\u00a0<\/p>\n

It’s not my place to correct him or teach him.\u00a0 He knows what I believe, we’ve had that conversation before.\u00a0 I don’t get mad at him.\u00a0 I say a joking reminder each time as soon as he does it.\u00a0 And although he hears what I am saying, he does not hear what I am saying.\u00a0 He does not get it, that there is truly a link between what you say and what you attract.\u00a0 Between what you talk about and what you go on to experience.\u00a0 I am not going to make an issue of it with him if he does not understand, nor am I going to try to pound it into him.\u00a0 I just eat elsewhere.<\/p>\n

It’s a shame when it affects being with people I enjoy being with.\u00a0 But on that issue I just won’t compromise.\u00a0 For long anyway.\u00a0 If it’s my neighbor who just has my ear for a few minutes and it’s our only contact, that’s fine, I can sit through it.\u00a0 I don’t need to educate them on what I believe and what they need to do to meet my expectations.\u00a0 I can just listen.\u00a0 I don’t even need to tell them I agree or disagree.\u00a0 I say things like, “I hear you.\u00a0 I understand what you’re saying.\u00a0 I can see how you feel that way.”\u00a0 I do not<\/em><\/strong> say things like, “Well, if you don’t like that, why do you keep attracting it to yourself?”<\/p>\n

My life got easier when I realized it is not my place to preach to or try to convert anyone to my way of thinking.\u00a0 I used to think well, if they are in front of me, then it must be for me to teach them something.\u00a0 LOL Are you laughing, too?\u00a0 I realized years later that I was in front of these people to learn from<\/em><\/strong> them, not to teach them.\u00a0 Typical novice.\u00a0 I realized later that no matter who was in front of me, my “multitude” were those few who were asking for what I had to offer.\u00a0 Not everyone that I may have wanted to be interested in it or me.\u00a0 Just those who were asking for it.<\/p>\n

If they weren’t asking for it, it didn’t matter how much I shouted it. They weren’t my audience.\u00a0 No matter how much I thought they’d be happier if they “woke up”, they weren’t asking to be woken up.\u00a0 I let them have their dream.\u00a0 There are plenty of people who want what I do, who want what you do, that we don’t need to worry about losing business.\u00a0 The business we lose is not our target market any longer.\u00a0 I’ve been blessed with good business,\u00a0 I’ve learned to surf with the changes and dance through the upgrades.\u00a0 It took a lot of years of a lot of discipline but, as spiritual brother Bo Lozoff says, “It’s a meaningful life, it just takes practice.”<\/p>\n

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