{"id":22740,"date":"2012-12-21T08:44:22","date_gmt":"2012-12-21T13:44:22","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/?p=22740"},"modified":"2012-12-21T08:44:22","modified_gmt":"2012-12-21T13:44:22","slug":"reviewing-the-year-for-what-you-want-to-continue-doing","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/reviewing-the-year-for-what-you-want-to-continue-doing\/","title":{"rendered":"Reviewing the year for what you want to continue doing"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>The 3 people you’ve spent the most time with the past 12 months, do they inspire you and encourage you and make your life easier? Are they just as supportive of your projects as you are of theirs?\u00a0 Do they do what they say they’ll do? Or do they waste your time and upset your schedule and give little if anything back in return? I sat out at the chimenea last night and did a burning bowl ceremony with a friend.\u00a0 Domino<\/a> has\u00a0 had an active year and needed time away from home and family to unwind and alpha out in front of a soft flame.\u00a0 To forget about everything else for a moment and focus only inwardly on what does he<\/em> need and what would bring him<\/em> joy.\u00a0 These are tough questions to ask someone who feels they have a responsibility to support people they’ve allowed to become dependent upon them.\u00a0 He and his wife went through a messy divorce and earlier this year, she moved back in.\u00a0 Now, however, she has unknown health problems, so he’s always driving her around to doctors.\u00a0 If he’s not giving her attention, she complains. His business has taken a nose dive since he’s a sole proprietor and now has to make all his business appointments around her schedule.\u00a0 He quit smoking and drinking last year after the divorce and now, because she’s the same abusive person but now supposedly sick as well, he’s back to smoking and drinking again to handle it.\u00a0 He’s having serious health issues because of it.\u00a0 Her elder sister moved in with them a few months ago, but instead of helping, he’s now catering to two people who are sucking the life out of him.\u00a0 Literally.\u00a0 You are the only one who knows whether you feel nurtured.\u00a0 In general.\u00a0 By anyone.\u00a0 You are the only one who perceives whether those you nurture owe you something in return.\u00a0 <\/p>\n

I’ve had the gift the last six months of being the transportation for a friend who’s temporarily without a car.\u00a0 Being self employed, I don’t like my schedule being upset, so we were delighted when his hours coincided with business I could do in that area of town on those days anyway.\u00a0 Synchronicity!\u00a0 We’re also good friends; he helps me with man stuff around the homestead and he encourages me in my work.\u00a0 We have satisfying conversations on topics of mutual interest.\u00a0 To me, that’s a fair trade but we don’t keep score.<\/p>\n

Domino on the other hand, feels he’s gotten himself into a situation he sees no relief from.\u00a0 Yet he has the choice of stopping it right now. \u00a0 Sometimes you have to push past the fear of hurting someone’s feelings by letting them know what no longer works for you.\u00a0 That’s why it’s so easy for me to say no<\/a>.\u00a0 I know the sooner I release anyone from the bondage I feel, the sooner I free them as well.<\/p>\n

Who floats your cork?\u00a0 Who makes you feel free and light?\u00a0 Those are the ones I want more of in my life.\u00a0 Decide for 2013 who and what you will allow to stay in your life, because you will be fed by your choice.\u00a0 Make sure it’s a healthy one \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n

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