{"id":21065,"date":"2012-09-16T17:41:33","date_gmt":"2012-09-16T21:41:33","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/?p=21065"},"modified":"2015-04-04T11:07:16","modified_gmt":"2015-04-04T16:07:16","slug":"domino-asks-how-to-get-over-a-broken-heart","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/horizonsmagazine.com\/blog\/domino-asks-how-to-get-over-a-broken-heart\/","title":{"rendered":"Domino asks how to get over a broken heart"},"content":{"rendered":"

Domino <\/a>writes: “Once again I thought I found the man of my dreams. \u00a0Without warning, last month he said we were over. \u00a0 True, we’re not very compatible but we had fun so my heart hurts from missing him. \u00a0We work together and are in the same social circles, so I see him almost every day. \u00a0How do I remove the hurt from my heart? \u00a0I feel like maybe I should change jobs and go to different churches and restaurants so I won’t see him anymore. \u00a0How do I stop the pain?<\/em>”<\/p>\n

Andrea responded<\/a>, “Those you attract to you are a manifestation of your vibration, every time. \u00a0They come as evidence of what you\u2019re doing vibrationally, every time. They came because you summoned them with your practiced vibration.\u201d \u00a0\u00a0If you are with your partner as evidence of what you\u2019ve been habitually doing vibrationally, it stands to reason that if you\u2019d like a change, you\u2019ll begin doing things to vibrate in a different place yourself. That can be as simple as focusing on new topics, focusing on new people, focusing on new places.<\/p>\n

When parting from any kind of relationship, while it\u2019s freeing to be able to say what you feel and have it all out in the open, there\u2019s no need to go back and rehash \u201cbut you said this,\u201d or \u201cyou promised that.\u201d \u00a0All that becomes irrelevant in the moment that either thinks, \u201cThis is no longer my destination.\u201d \u00a0Continuing beyond that point is a disservice to both parties. \u00a0Now it\u2019s time to move on to\u00a0better feeling thoughts.<\/a>\u00a0<\/p>\n

I never want to be with someone who doesn\u2019t want to be with me. No matter who they are or what we’ve been together in the past. \u00a0If my man doesn’t crave me, free me up to find the one who does. \u00a0I have a fun and happy life on my own<\/a>, so when a friend comes into my life for a even short time and helps create more joy, that’s an addition to my life. \u00a0That’s an upgrade to my life. \u00a0At 60, I’ve learned no one stays for long. \u00a0Maybe for others, but not in my experience. \u00a0Every 3 years or so I need to monk out and be alone a few years and few understand that.<\/p>\n

If you have attracted someone as manifestational evidence of your vibration, and you’re no longer in sync, at some point you realize you have different goals and desires. \u00a0It doesn’t matter how much you care about each other, you’re paths are no longer walking alongside. \u00a0It could be as simple as a pet allergy or work schedule conflict. It could be as simple as deciding, “This isn’t the one for me. \u00a0Thought it was. \u00a0Wanted it to be. \u00a0It’s not. ”<\/p>\n

That means do the honorable thing to free them up as soon as possible so they can find the one they are meant to be with, if that is their wish. \u00a0People can’t be faulted for declaring love when they feel it, or think they feel it. \u00a0We ask them to be open with us, then we are horrified at what they disclose. \u00a0We want to be more seasoned and mature on the topic of relationships, but have had so many games programmed into us that few know where to start in an honest and authentic way. \u00a0Many players truly do not consider themselves players. \u00a0They really don’t know what they don’t know.<\/a><\/p>\n

So how you you get over a broken heart?<\/em><\/span><\/strong> \u00a0You have an entire life established around you that you turn your focus to. \u00a0You reach for better feeling thoughts, such as bringing to mind all the fun things you liked about your partner, and what \u00a0fun things you notice in the friends around you. \u00a0You begin to go to new places and meet new friends and find churches and events you’re interested in and you begin to check them all out. \u00a0Go by yourself, get over not wanting to go anywhere alone. Alone is fun, alone is freeing.<\/p>\n

If you happen into an old haunt the two of you used to visit, it may bring up a sadness and\u00a0melancholy. \u00a0If you’re with good friends, it would be good to sit with the heartache a little while and breathe it out silently to yourself for a few breaths. \u00a0Then see how quickly your last memory of the place is not you and him\/her, but the fun group you’re with tonight.<\/p>\n

If everything at home reminds you of him, rearrange it all to your liking. Change every room completely around. \u00a0Have friends over for tea to check out the new arrangements. \u00a0Smudge the entire home and do an indoor cleansing. \u00a0Open all the windows and doors and state your intention that only good flows to you, only good flows from you. You’re clearing away all energy that no longer serves you, known or unknown. \u00a0You’re sending it all off into the Light where it may continue to grow and prosper.<\/p>\n

I personally am a fan of the Ho\u2019oponopono, a Hawaiian Healing Process\u00a0<\/a><\/span>. \u00a0do it on each person you see in conflict and your world will change.\u00a0\u00a0And the broken heart? \u00a0This, too, shall pass. \u00a0If someone wants to leave you, accept the gift. \u00a0Let them go when they want to go. They’re blessing you!<\/p>\n

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