I believe people can stay friends after breakups. \u00a0Just because you love each other doesn’t mean you have to be together. \u00a0Just because you’ve lost the lust for a mate, doesn’t mean you can’t stay happily together. \u00a0Just because you argue doesn’t mean you have to split up. \u00a0Just because you split up and separate doesn’t mean you have to divorce. \u00a0Just because you divorce doesn’t mean you can’t still hang out together for mutual interests. \u00a0If each one follows their heart, they may indeed part ways but still everyone wins and you can have the best of all worlds when you understand that. \u00a0The person I care the most about in the world is an ex boyfriend who’s married to a friend of mine. \u00a0She’s is the perfect mate for him and he adores her and goes out of his way to do for her. \u00a0He’s a do-er, constantly coming up with something to delight her. \u00a0He and I talk on the phone every few weeks and that fulfills something deep within me that no one else fills. \u00a0Do we want to be together now? \u00a0I believe his response to that jokingly posed query years ago was “There’s not enough therapy in the world for that to happen.” Which proves my point.<\/p>\n
With people I have love for, the farther I can stay away from labels and boxing in what “we have together” the freerer I feel and the better we get along. \u00a0Each time I’ve gotten married, always to men I loved, suddenly how I felt about them changed and thus began the downfall of the relationship. \u00a0I believe our relationships should be fluid, allowing for change and growth, and that vows and promises can be amended as life situations evolve. \u00a0I do not believe in until death do us part<\/em>. \u00a0I believe in I choose to be in this union as long as it’s meaningful, reciprocal and uplifting to be in<\/em>. \u00a0As soon as someone is sincerely unhappy and unsatisfied, they should implement plans to be elsewhere. \u00a0This is how friendships can remain after breakups. \u00a0We don’t yell and scream, we don’t say hateful things. \u00a0We realize for it to work, both parties must be nurtured by it. \u00a0Whether that is familial, platonic, romantic, sexual, business, contract, it’s all the same. \u00a0Love it as it is, through all the changes.<\/p>\n